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3 Easy Tips for Effective Communication

How to Win Friends and Influence People: Effective Communication
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Communication is more than just speaking some words, it is the way we use bundles of  interpersonal skills as forms of communication, and these skills can be learned at any age.

Some people are very natural and skilled at using these interpersonal skills, others who did not naturally have this talent have nonetheless learned to use them effectively, and still others keep struggling to navigate the challenges of human communication.

3 Easy Tips for Effective Communication

Everyone knows someone who is just – well – awkward or imbalanced when it comes to talking and communicating with others.

Three Main Communication Styles

That awkward, imbalanced person might be too heavily influenced by one of the three main communication styles: aggressive, passive, or assertive.

To adjust for this type of communication imbalance, it can help to role play and practice different scenarios, focusing on the three main types of verbal and nonverbal communication: speaking, eye contact, and body language.

Practice Verbal Communication

The best way to improve your verbal communication skills is to practice speaking. If you feel silly practicing with

If you feel silly practicing with someone or asking someone to help you learn to speak more effectively:

  • Use your imagination and go somewhere where no one can hear you, then practice talking.
  • Use many different scenarios, because conversations rarely take the expected path and you will want to be comfortable discussing more than one topic.

Make Eye Contact but Avoid “Stalker Stare”

Eye contact can be tricky, too little shows disinterest and too much can be unsettling to others; so it’s a good idea to practice this in front of a mirror, and then, if possible, on a friend or family member.

  • There is a fine line between making enough eye contact to show interest and unleashing a full-blown “stalker stare.”
  • Oh, and remember to blink, because not blinking makes even a simple gaze resemble a stalker stare.

Practice Body Language

Body language can also be tough to master, so practice the body language you want to use in as  many hypothetical situations as possible.

  • Think of it as acting if that makes you feel more comfortable practicing, and have gestures ready for different things someone might say.
  • Avoid closed off body language, such as arms crossed in front of the body, or slouching forward because these can be indicative of deception, disinterest, or disliking the other person – all things that can kill a conversation.

Verbal and nonverbal communication skills make up the bundle of communication skills you need to communicate effectively in life, and they are all skills you can practice and perfect.

How Can Empathy Make the World a Better Place

Have you ever talked to someone who lacks empathy and who just cannot seem to understand what you’re saying because they are so set on telling you something?

If you answered yes – How did it make you feel? Frustrated? Angry? Like you really didn’t want to talk to that person ever again?

Empathy plays an important role in effective communication – and practicing this type of responsive compassion can help make the world  a better place – one person at a time.

Empathy Definition

What is empathy? Empathy is, basically, the ability to understand and to share the feelings of another person, or another living creature.

Responsive Communication

Verbal and Nonverbal cues
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There are many different communication styles, some effective and some not so effective, but for increasing empathy, it’s good to put responsive communication into practice.

Responsive communication starts with hearing and processing verbal cues, includes taking the time to process and respond to those verbal cues as well as watching for and processing nonverbal cues.

Verbal and Nonverbal Communication

Some people will say exactly what they think – and if you’re dealing with one of those delightfully above-board people, communicating with empathy should be relatively easy – you just have to hear them and think how you would feel in their situation.

  • Many people, however, most people actually, have emotional filters in place that make effective communication and true empathy a bit more tricky.
  • When dealing with people who are guarded, you have to hear the words they are speaking  and their tone of voice while also watching hand gestures, posture, eye contact, and head movements such as nodding or shaking the head no.
  • The nonverbal forms of communication are often more important in understanding and being empathetic to the other person’s feelings than the words they are saying.
    • For example, if someone is saying “Yes” but their head is shaking in a silent “No” then their subconscious is speaking to you, and it’s wise to pay attention if you want to understand and communicate with them effectively.

Compassion and Kindness

“Our task must be to free ourselves by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and beauty.”  -Albert Einstein

Empathy can make the world a better place by allowing us to understand and even experience the feelings of others on a personal level so we can interact with other people and other living creatures with compassion and the sense of sharing this journey through existence.