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Why You Should Stop and Smell the Flowers When You Need To

I don’t take a lot of time off from work, so I tend to get kind of burned out, so this post is as much as reminder to myself to stop and smell the flowers as it is to show why everyone should.

Image and quote by Laure Justice

I generally work every day. I do this because I work for myself and no one pays the bills if I don’t. So, while I may put in an occasional short day, It’s very rare that I take a full day off. However, that may actually be detrimental to my productivity, and to yours, too, if you don’t take occasional time away from work.

Overworking Is Bad for Your Health

Overworking increases your stress level and your risk of having a heart attack. As far as the heart attack risk, it’s actually based on working more than 10 hours per day, and the increased risk is huge – 60 percent higher than the risk faced by those who keep shorter hours.

This post is actually about taking days off, but realistically, that isn’t always possible, and sometimes long days are part of regular work life. So, you can apply the ‘stop and smell the flowers’ concept in short bursts throughout the day to gain some of the self-care benefits.

Productivity Drops When You Overwork

When you’re putting in too many hours, your productivity drops. So, it may seem as if putting in long days, every day, is going to up your productivity and therefore your earning potential, the reality is it doesn’t happen that way. For most people, the sweet spot in hours to work is around 40 per week, with a maximum of 50, and then productivity drops.

One place that I run into trouble is, I work from home on my computer, and sometimes my work hours blend into my mindless-internet-surfing hours. So, I FEEL like I’m working from the time I wake up until I go to sleep, but actually it’s just that I tried to work too long and my mind wandered… simply, my productivity dropped.

Overworking Changes Your Attitude

When you work too many hours in a day or a week, or you go too long without taking some time for yourself, it affects your attitude. It’s really normal to get cranky and short-tempered toward others when you’re overworked.

I tend to get stuck in a cycle when I overwork. I get annoyed if anyone interrupts me, and I miss out on the chance to connect with family members and friends. Plus, I can’t SEE what I’m doing in terms of the relationships that matter most to me because I get caught up in the work-work-work mentality.

It would so great to hear about your experiences with overworking! Feel free to share your thoughts on overworking and how it affects you in the comments section below, or look for Intrinsic Vicissitude on Facebook to join the conversation there.

By Laure Justice

Are You Practicing Stress or Practicing Peace?

I’ve been under a lot of stress lately, more than normal, and one thing I often do when I get stressed is look for quotes about inner peace.  I found some that really touched me a couple minutes ago, and I decided to share them here for anyone else who’s feeling the stress and not the peace today.

Practicing Peace
Practicing Peace image courtesy of Pixabay

Stress or Peace?

I like this quote so much because it speaks to the fact that we get a choice and the thoughts and actions we choose affect the outcome we get.

“Every day brings a choice to practice stress or to practice peace.” – Joan Borysenko

That was it… simple… concise… the perfect reminder to just chill.

Where’s your Power?

I picked this second quote because I find it so easy to fall into the role of feeling like a victim when things pile up around me.

“When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power lies!” – author unknown

It’s a gentle reminder that how you respond to things is where your power lies.

Your Chance to Grow

This last quote is another gentle reminder, or was for me and I hope it will be for you, that even when things seem bleak, it can be your chance to start fresh.

“Sometimes, when you’re in a dark place, you think you’ve been buried, but you’ve actually been planted.” – Christine Caine

So, make of that what you will, but keep in mind that the bullsh!t that gets heaped on your shoulders (from wherever and from whomever) can be used (by you) as amazing fertilizer to grow your future.

Updated to remove the typo from the title…. oops!

by: Laure Justice

Accepting Emotional Abuse Blocks Your Ability to Build a Happy Life

If you’re here on Intrinsic Vicissitude to learn about building a better, happier life, but you are also in an emotionally abusive relationship, you already know first-hand that the title of this post is true – but did you also know you have choices and do not have to remain a victim of this type of emotional manipulation?

Accepting emotional abuse takes away your joy and stops you from growing as a person. It gives the person bullying you all the power and wraps the victim in a shroud of stress and fear.

What is Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse is a type of relationship bullying that typically uses verbal abuse and manipulative, spirit-crushing tactics to control the victim. It does not leave the same physical signs as domestic violence, but it is a serious form of domestic abuse.

Living with emotional bullying leaves the victim angry, and afraid. Happiness cannot exist, much less grow in a soil made up of anger and fear.

How to Stop Being Bullied by a Loved One

First of all, if someone is bullying you – that is not a person who loves you. It is a person who wants to control you, and that has nothing to do with love or affection.

  • If you or a loved one are dealing with this type of victimization, recognize your own role in it – in that by accepting it you allow it to continue.
  • Educate yourself on codependent relationships.
  • Seek counseling.
  • Keep a journal if you can keep your bully from reading it and using it as a tool to bully you more.
  • Do whatever you have to do to get stronger so you can have the life you want and deserve.

You can learn more about identifying emotional abuse on the Dr. Phil website, or reading a book on codependency, such as Why Women Pick Losers and Jerks or Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself.