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3 Easy Self-Empowerment Exercises to Help You Take Control of Your Life

If you are feeling down about your life, it can feel as if empowerment is an impossible thing for you, but it’s not.

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Becoming self-empowered is a process, and it’s the same for almost everyone, it’s just that some people never really try to take on the process and some manage to slip through it with more ease than others.

Wherever you are at in that, there are some simple things you can do to help yourself move through the process to self-empowerment more quickly and with greater ease.

3 Easy Self-Empowerment Exercises

Go ahead and grab a notebook and pen, or open up a blank document that you can use to record your work on these exercises.

  1. Dream Big: Start by writing down that big goal – or even all of your long-term goals.
    1. It’s perfectly okay and normal if they are “crazy big” or so big you can’t ever imagine them coming true.
      1. If you worry that someone will find your notes and make fun of you, first, you are probably surrounding yourself with the wrong people, and second, encode them so only you can read them.
        1. You can even destroy them when you finish the exercise, though if possible it’s best to keep them and refer back to them every couple weeks or months.
  2. Start Small: Rather than start work on achieving one big, or long-term goal, think about, and record, the steps to make that big goal a reality.
    1. You don’t have to do it all in one day – and if you can do it in one day – it isn’t really a long-term goal anyway.
      1. For example: if your long term goal is a better job so you can live as you wish, financially, but you need to get an education to get the job you want, signing up for college and registering for your first semester of classes would be a good first short term goal.
        1. The advantage of setting these small short-term goals is that each one in itself is easy to achieve – you are setting yourself up for success by setting a series of achievable goals, and each success you experience adds to your sense of accomplishment and self-empowerment.
  3. Record Successes: Make a checklist of the small steps you are taking and plan to take, and check off each one as you complete it.
    1. This gives you a visual confirmation you can look at any time you need a bit of inspiration and a reminder that you have indeed completed steps toward your long-term goal or goals.
      1. Being able to look at a checklist of your accomplishments can speak to your psyche in a unique and effective way.

Personal Growth is a Journey

“We are the creative force of our life, and through our own decisions rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do certain things, we can accomplish those goals.”  – Dr. Steven Covey PhD

Don’t expect to change every single thing that’s wrong in your life at once, at best that would be overwhelming – at worst it is setting yourself up for failure.

Always remember that a small success is better than no success and that each small success is but one step on the path to creating and living the life you want.

The True Value of Empathy

“When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems.”  – Stephen Covey

What Is Empathy?

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The dictionary definition of empathy is: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

A more personal definition is that empathy lets us connect with each other and feel connected, accepted, and understood while on the other hand, interacting with people who show a lack of empathy leaves us feeling disconnected and alone.

What Is the True Value of Empathy?

The true value of empathy is that it provides us with a sense of emotional validation.

While it does not help in every situation, showing empathy can relieve tension and anger in a person who is venting or complaining.

And if you are the one venting or complaining, having someone acknowledge your anger – having someone ‘hear’ you and understand you, can help reduce the anger and frustration you are experiencing.

Do I Lack Empathy?

Most people know deep down if they are empathetic or not, but there are tests you can take to assess your level of empathy toward others.

How Can I Be More Empathetic?

To be more empathetic, listen more than you speak. It’s not always easy, because everyone needs to be heard – everyone needs to ‘soft’ end of empathy sometimes.

  • When someone is telling you how they feel or what they think, or what they believe – you don’t have to solve their problems, educate them, or do anything except let them express themselves.
  • Recognize that it’s okay to say, “I understand.” even if you don’t totally understand – or to simply nod as a way to show you hear the person and are not judging them.
  • Think of the most frustrating conversation you ever had with your mother or father or any authority figure who was telling you how to live your life – the reason it was frustrating is most likely due to the fact that – that person was showing a lack of empathy in their dealings wth you.
  • Take an extra second to wish someone you would usually not chat with a good day, or to ask how their day is going.
  • Give a smile to someone who looks crestfallen, if they don’t smile back, don’t sweat it, maybe the memory of your smile will come to them later when they need it most.

I would love to hear what you think…

Do you have any favorite tips for increasing empathy?

Or, do you have any stories about how experiencing a lack of empathy made you feel?