“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”
When it feels as if everything is against you, and life is just too stinking hard, you have the option, and the right, to choose happiness.
I know that sounds really “Pollyanna” – because if really awful things are dive-bombing into your lap, choosing happiness might not feel like an option – but how you choose to react (at least to normal day-to-day life challenge situations) is a choice.
Simple Ways to Choose Happiness
Get started by shifting your focus outward, because wallowing in self-pity (beyond the initial moments of shock) holds you back from experiencing anything positive.
Who can you help?
Instead of focusing on everything that is against you, focus on what you can do to help someone else, because there is always someone worse off, or just someone who will feel blessed by some small kindness that you can hand to them.
Right after doing something nice for someone else, reflect on how blessed you were to be in a position to help someone else. (Just don’t think about it in a gloating, superior way – because that’s a different kind of negative, and we’re trying to get you feeling positive in a deep, and genuine way.)
Fake it if you’re not feeling it!
Paste a fake smile on your face. Hum a happy tune even if you would rather go kick something. If you act happy long enough, you’re going to start to feel it.
Keep It Simple
Make living your life in the simplest way possible a priority. Get some exercise, eat sensibly, use your brain, take action, surround yourself with ethical and loving people, tap into your spirituality, and put something good out there in the world every day.
When it feels like everything is against you, you can choose to let it defeat you and hold you down, or you can use it as a tool to launch yourself to new heights, like an airplane taking off into the wind.