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Why We Get Addicted to Feeling Lost

Logically, no one wants to feel lost in life, but once we have fallen into that type of destructive cycle, we often end up remaining stuck and wondering why we can’t break free and stop feeling lost.

Why We Get Addicted to Feeling Lost

Trauma and Addiction: Stop Feeling Lost
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Just like we can get addicted to feeling good,  we can get caught in a pattern that leaves us feeling lost.ven though it’s a negative pattern and a feeling, it can become our “normal” and we can end up (subconsciously) recreating our lost feelings over and over.

Even though feeling lost develops as a negative pattern and is an unpleasant feeling, over time it can become our “normal” and we can end up (subconsciously) recreating our lost feelings… over and over and over.

What Does an Addiction to Feeling Lost Do to You?

Feeling lost is basically letting a sense of failure take over, and it gives us a sense of having failed ourselves – and the more times the cycle  of loss recurs, the more the let-down feelings intensify.

My 6 Favorite Tips for Breaking an Addiction to Feeling Lost

As someone who spent years – decades actually – feeling lost, and who eventually found a way to break the cycle, I would like to share a few simple things that made all the difference for me.

  1. Own your feelings: Instead of thinking the things you feel are the result of external forces, recognize them as your own emotions.
  2. Set some long-term goals: Set goals for five or ten years down the road but don’t stop there – go on to analyze the  things you need to do to achieve those goals and set them up as your smaller, short-term goals.
  3. Write things down: Seeing your plans in written form can inspire you to act on them – it can also help you catch weak spots in your plans so you can adapt the steps as needed.
  4. Take action: Pick one of your short-term goals and set it in motion – waiting – with no action – leaves you stuck in the feeling of being lost.
  5. Be adaptable: If you have spent a long time  struggling, breaking free of a destructive cycle isn’t going to be easy, so expect to find flaws in your plans and be ready to jump into an alternative approach – and remember that it’s only failure if you completely give up.
  6. Set yourself up to succeed: This is especially important at first – make some of your short-term goals SO easy and SO small you can breeze right through them – this gives you a taste of success that you can use as a strong foundation for your bigger goals.

You can take control and take action to change your course if you are feeling lost in life, whether you find the right path or not is completely in your hands.

4 Financial Tips for Starting a Money Saving Plan

At its core, a money saving plan boils down to setting some money aside and saving it for a rainy day, but it’s not as simple to do as it is to say that.

Life gets in the way, and not putting enough thought and detail into your money saving plan to make it actionable can set you up for failure.

“No one’s ever achieved financial fitness with a January resolution that’s abandoned by February.”  – Suze Orman

Financial Tips for Starting a Money Saving Plan

The One-Page Financial Plan: Setting Up a Money Saving Plan
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Start by thinking of a money saving plan as a long-term goal.

Sure, you can save a bit of cash here and there with no plan and spend it when you get in a pinch, but having a plan in place, and sticking to it over the long term can make a difference in your future – not just in your current situation.

“If you want to reap financial blessings, you have to sow financially.”  – Joel Osteen

Figure out your budget (if you don’t already have one.)

In your budget, include what percentage of each pay you want to put in long-term savings, then add a percentage for short-term savings – that you can use for emergencies without wrecking your long term plan.

Set up an automatic savings plan.

Through your bank, credit union, or employer, set it up so the percentage you select to save long-term goes automatically into an account you can’t easily access – then either handle the short-term savings deposits on your own or set them up for automatic transfer, too.

“No complaint… is more common than that of a scarcity of money.”  – Adam Smith

(Automatic transfers reduce the likelihood of spending your savings without thoroughly thinking it through first because, while it’s always your money, it never passes through your hands to tempt you to spend it.)

“A simple fact that is hard to learn is that the time to save money is when you have some.”  – Joe Moore

How to Find a Trustworthy Financial Planner

Consult a financial planner or investment specialist if you need help.

If you really struggle with the  concept of saving money, consult a professional financial planner for some help and direction – just be sure to check the planner’s credentials so you don’t get scammed.

(I really want to stress this part – check credentials if you need help with this type of planning – you cannot be too careful when it comes to your money.)

7 Secrets to Setting Goals That Change Your Life

The new year is kind of like a blank notebook – you get to write the story that emerges in it, so setting some new goals – at the start of the year – or any time – is a way to start fresh on your terms, but do you know how to set goals you can stick to?

Life Gets in the Way

Goal Setting TipsUnlike writing a new story in a new notebook, when we are talking about real life issues, we don’t get to start completely fresh.

We still have to deal with the same old baggage that’s been a problem in our lives, and setting new goals without giving a nod to that baggage sets us up for failure.

Think about goals, such as New Year’s resolutions you’ve set in the past; how long did they last? A few hours? A week? A month? (Did you know only

(Did you know only 8% of the people who set new year’s resolutions actually achieve them?)

How to Set Goals That Stick

Instead of thinking of your new goals as big, major, life-changing things that you need to achieve in a single year, think of the really big changes you need to make as long-term goals, and set some short term goals you need to do while in pursuit of your long-term goals.

  1. Brainstorm and plan.
    • Break the process of setting goals into several steps and build success into each step.
  2. Start with an awareness of your long-term goals.
    • Planning without an eye on where you want to end up would be kind of like taking off across country on foot with no destination in mind – sure – it could be an adventure – but more likely it will be a failure.
  3. Be very specific in your goal setting.
    • Using weight loss as an example, instead of making the goal an 80 pound (or whatever) weight drop, set small goals around the steps involved in losing weight, such as giving up second helpings or increasing activity levels by walking 20 minutes per day, three times a week.
  4. Set attainable short-term goals as your resolutions. 
    • If you do the steps as short-term goals, the big results will come, plus you get to feel inspired and successful as you meet each short term goal.
  5. Build in adaptability.
    • Give yourself a break.
    • It’s hard to make life changes.
    • Instead of setting yourself up for failure by creating rigid goals, expect to adapt them after the first week, or even during the first day.
    • If you set more than one goal at once, know in advance that you will most likely make rapid progress on some and struggle with others.
  6. Give yourself at least one fun, totally positive goal.
    • This is a total confidence builder!
    • What is something you enjoy doing but rarely, if ever do?
    • Set aside ten or fifteen minutes a day (or longer if you have the time) to enjoy that thing.
  7. Keep your new goals to yourself if you are surrounded by negative people.
    • Nothing can crush your motivation faster than hearing something negative from someone whose opinion is important to you – so just don’t tell them.

So, let’s get started… what are your new goals?