The new year is kind of like a blank notebook – you get to write the story that emerges in it, so setting some new goals – at the start of the year – or any time – is a way to start fresh on your terms, but do you know how to set goals you can stick to?
Life Gets in the Way
We still have to deal with the same old baggage that’s been a problem in our lives, and setting new goals without giving a nod to that baggage sets us up for failure.
Think about goals, such as New Year’s resolutions you’ve set in the past; how long did they last? A few hours? A week? A month? (Did you know only
(Did you know only 8% of the people who set new year’s resolutions actually achieve them?)
How to Set Goals That Stick
Instead of thinking of your new goals as big, major, life-changing things that you need to achieve in a single year, think of the really big changes you need to make as long-term goals, and set some short term goals you need to do while in pursuit of your long-term goals.
- Brainstorm and plan.
- Break the process of setting goals into several steps and build success into each step.
- Start with an awareness of your long-term goals.
- Planning without an eye on where you want to end up would be kind of like taking off across country on foot with no destination in mind – sure – it could be an adventure – but more likely it will be a failure.
- Be very specific in your goal setting.
- Using weight loss as an example, instead of making the goal an 80 pound (or whatever) weight drop, set small goals around the steps involved in losing weight, such as giving up second helpings or increasing activity levels by walking 20 minutes per day, three times a week.
- Set attainable short-term goals as your resolutions.
- If you do the steps as short-term goals, the big results will come, plus you get to feel inspired and successful as you meet each short term goal.
- Build in adaptability.
- Give yourself a break.
- It’s hard to make life changes.
- Instead of setting yourself up for failure by creating rigid goals, expect to adapt them after the first week, or even during the first day.
- If you set more than one goal at once, know in advance that you will most likely make rapid progress on some and struggle with others.
- Give yourself at least one fun, totally positive goal.
- This is a total confidence builder!
- What is something you enjoy doing but rarely, if ever do?
- Set aside ten or fifteen minutes a day (or longer if you have the time) to enjoy that thing.
- Keep your new goals to yourself if you are surrounded by negative people.
- Nothing can crush your motivation faster than hearing something negative from someone whose opinion is important to you – so just don’t tell them.
So, let’s get started… what are your new goals?