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An Unhappy Relationship Is Like Thick Fog

If you’ve ever driven or walked in heavy fog, you know you can’t see very far ahead. You don’t know what’s coming at you, you can’t see what you might hit if you keep going, you might not even really know if you are on the right road at all.

Unhappy Relationship

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing: Unhappy Relationship
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Being in an unhappy relationship is like that. You can try to keep going, even though you know it’s not good or safe, but then you don’t know from second to second what is about to come crashing into your life – more likely than not bringing stress and disaster.

Relationship Choices

It can feel like you’re trapped, because where can you run if you don’t know what dangers are around you? You do have choices, though.

  • You can continue muddling through the fog of unhappiness.
  • You can get out of the fog and move on to a brighter, sunnier place that isn’t wrapped in thick fog.
  • You can figure out a way to feel safe while still in the fog.

A lot of people just stay trapped and feel sorry for themselves, and complain to anyone who happens to wander into their fog, but that, staying in an unhappy state, is in itself, a choice.

Take Action and Embrace Positivity

Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap
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If that’s where you are right now, trapped in an unhappy relationship, do something positive for yourself. I’m not saying leave the relationship. I’m not saying stay in it. Only you can decide that part. I’m saying, there are things you can do to bring positivity into your life, and you should take action and do the positive things – for yourself – that feel right to you.

 

Why Women Pick Losers and Jerks

This is a review of a book that was personally helpful to me. It’s called, Why Women Pick Losers and Jerks by Jim Hedges.

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I’m sharing it here because understanding your pain can be the key to building a better life.

I got this book when I was looking for answers – after spending over 20 years stuck with a guy I had nothing in common with, who enjoyed lying and taking things, and who, seriously, I couldn’t stand.

At the same time, I felt stuck – trapped – like there was no hope whether I was with him or not – and I didn’t understand why I couldn’t break away.

I would ask myself every day – usually several times a day, why I stayed with the jerk – sometimes I used words a lot nastier than jerk.

I had truly loved the man at first – but just like a weed – love can be killed if you stomp on it enough times.

Reading this book gave a name to my pain, it let me see that I was codependent – how I got that way – and even gave me a direction to turn for the next phase of my life.

My life didn’t change overnight – took me a lifetime to get so broken – will take some time to fix – but it helped me start healing.

It showed me that I wasn’t powerless and I could choose to have the life I want. It let me see that a troubled childhood had left my self-esteem damaged, but that it didn’t have to define my life story.

I liked the tone that was used to write the book – like a chat with a good friend, and the real life examples of women who, like me, had picked losers and jerks – for the same reasons.

I wasn’t alone! My reactions, clinging to a doomed relationship- normal!

This book is perfect for identifying what happened and what you need to do to get your life back on track after a relationship with a loser or a jerk.