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Are You Ready to Be Happy?

Life can be tough – it can kick the breath out of you and leave you feeling sick and tired of your present situation and ready for a change – and making a change begins with a state of readiness.

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.”                     – Dalai Lama

If you want to make positive changes in your life, you have to be ready, and only you can decide when the time is right.

Are You Ready to Be Happy?

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If you were to walk up to almost any unhappy person (if they were willing to talk, that is) and ask if they are ready to be happy, they would, of course, say yes, though they might follow the reply with a negative comment, such as – as if that could ever happen.

Very few people truly desire unhappiness, but people can get caught in cycles that recreate the same set of unhappy circumstances over and over, and it takes a lot to break out of one of those unhappy cycles.

What’s Holding You Back?

Feeling trapped, as if external forces are determining one’s happiness levels, is one thing that holds many people back, and blaming external forces gives an easy answer to a hard question, but not necessarily an accurate answer.

Self-improvement begins with being truly ready to take responsibility, to take control of your own life, and make things like low self-esteem, money problems, feeling lost and alone, exhaustion, weight problems, unhappy relationships, or lack of education a part of your past so you can live the life you want.

How to Be Happy With Your Life

When you are ready to move ahead with personal growth and make a change in how happy you are, there are several techniques you can try to see what works for you.

  • Get rid of the things that complicate and clutter your life.
  • Make time for peace and relaxation.
  • Take command of your situation and release negativity that comes from feeling powerless.
  • Don’ focus on blame, focus instead on what to do next to fix the situation.
  • Own your feelings. Somethings in life are just sad or infuriating, or hurtful – pretending everything is okay is fake and falseness holds you back in life.
  • Stop focusing on whether you are happy or not – focus instead on your goals, the steps you need to take to achieve them, and making sure you take those needed steps.

Taking care of your own needs and releasing past unhappiness is a form of self-compassion and positivity that can help you move ahead with personal growth.

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The Power You Gain From Showing Compassion to Others

It’s easy to think of kindness and compassion as something you give away – that takes from you – but the opposite is true because showing compassion can help you increase your personal power and confidence levels.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

The Link Between Kindness and Empowerment

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When you show compassion to someone else, it begins to bolster your self-esteem and helps you grow your personal power.

Helping someone else broadens your perspective and lets you see that, no matter what your circumstances are, you still have the power to make someone else’s day, or even their life, brighter.

In addition to extending compassion outwards, though, you can also practice self-compassion — by giving yourself a break and by seeing your good qualities instead of focusing on things you perceive as bad.

But… How Can I Help Anyone?

If you are wondering how you could possibly help anyone, for example if you are in a bad situation yourself, the help and compassion you offer don’t have to be big and drastically life-changing for the other person in order to make a positive impact on your (and their) life.

In most situations, we all have to work out our own big and life-changing struggles on our own anyway – if we want to make lasting changes in our lives – that is.

The kindness and compassion you offer can be as simple as a smile that lets another human being know they have been seen and valued, holding a door for someone carrying a heavy load, or buying someone who looks cold a small cup of coffee.

What Does Compassion Mean?

Compassion is described as a sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings and misfortunes of others.

I would add to that definition of compassion that compassion is the inner force that awakens a feeling of empathy in us and that it is the catalyst that can spur us to engage in acts of kindness.

When you are feeling down, when you have a low self-esteem, when you feel like failure is washing over you — you are focusing on yourself and the things you feel are wrong or sad or pitiful about your life – and that kind of thinking is a trap that benefits no one.

Let the compassion you feel as you look at the people around increase your self-esteem and you lead you to a better place by acting on impulses to help others.

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What Is Self-Esteem?

When you think about yourself, what do you think? Are you your own worst critic? Do you hear that small voice inside your head telling you that you’re not good enough, or not worthy of a better life? Good or bad, what you think about yourself, deep down, is your sense of self-esteem.

What Is Self-Esteem?

Indecision and Low Self-EsteemSimply put, self-esteem is the way you think of yourself – your opinion of yourself – and the value you put on yourself as a person.

If you watch a person with a high sense of self-esteem, he might seem bold, or over-confident. She might be that person who has everything, and everything goes right for – and who, even if something bad happens, he or she comes out on top of the heap. He just always seems to know what to do.

If you watch a person with low self-esteem, you might notice defeated body language, such as drooping shoulders, bad posture, or you might hear the person making self-deprecating jokes or saying generally negative things. He or she might even be acting flamboyantly in a subconscious effort to feel better or to hide a low self-esteem. He or she will often seem unable to make a decision

Raise Your Low Self-Esteem

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, there are things you can do boost your sense of self.

  • Begin with educating yourself – open your mind to who you are and who you believe you were meant to be – then write down those observations.
  • Recognize where you fall short of your own set of ideals, but don’t dwell on the differences – just be aware of them for your own use in goal-setting.
  • Take the time to be grateful for the strengths you already have, and even be grateful for the things you need to work on; because knowing what you need to work on is a big step.
  • Make goals, and go step-by-step through what you need to do to make those goals come true – then celebrate each and every step as you work toward your goals.
  • Personal Finance for WomenNever think of a success as being so small it’s not worth celebrating – a success is a success – and every success is worthy of your attention.
  • If an unhappy relationship with an unsuitable partner or financial problems are weighing you down, talk to an expert or pick up a book about the source of your problem.

 

 

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Kick Low Self Esteem in the Butt

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

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Low self esteem is like an invisible bully you unleash on yourself.

To kick its butt – if you ever want to have peace – you have to recognize it and see the fear behind it.

Then you have to look inside yourself and see the good, and maybe accept that there’s some bad, and then just accept that the fear is unfounded.

Building Self Confidence to Defeat Low Self Esteem

One exercise I love for improving self esteem is writing a pleasure list.

Think about what makes you happy, and what makes you smile – then write these happy things down.

Examples are loved ones, pets, places you enjoy, hobbies or sports you like, your favorite flowers, or a favorite funny TV show.

Keep the list handy, so when you start to feel down or you’re having a day that makes you feel like your self esteem is nonexistent, you can pull out the list and reread it to bring your spirits up.

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If you’re fighting depression, it can be hard to think of things that make you happy, so in that case, add a couple things you do to help others to your list if it feels hard to think of anything that makes you smile.

Self empowerment and self confidence begin with removing, or strengthening, the parts that feel small and weak within yourself, so you can create a strong self image to use as a healthy foundation for building a healthier, happier future.