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Self-Respect and the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is about having an inner electromagnet that pulls good things and prosperity to you – and self-respect is like the electricity you need to have within you to activate that inner electromagnet.

Self-Respect and the Law of Attraction

What Is the Link Between Self-Respect and the Law of Attraction?

When you lack self-respect and have low self-confidence, your natural tendency, your natural state, is to think disempowering thoughts – your affirmations and statements about what you want to attract in your life tend to be stated in negative terms.

Those negative statements are then the part of your inner dialogue your subconscious mind latches onto and acts upon.

So, while you may be saying, “I don’t want to be poor.” or “I am poor.” or “I don’t want to be alone.” or “I am so lonely.” – the part your subconscious hears and acts on is ‘poor’ or ‘alone’ – and that’s what you get.

The Law of Attraction is kind of like a swinging door because if your mind focuses on the positive, it brings you good things – but if you focus on  the negative, as you will if you have low self-respect, it’s going to bring you the exact things you don’t want.

Learn Self-Respect

Self-respect is about accepting yourself, but if you only focus on and accept negative concepts about yourself, then you will always have a damaged sense of your own self-worth.

Words have power and you can use that power to build a stronger sense of self-respect and in turn, you can start attracting the things you want to attract to your life.

Create Affirmations That Help Build Self-Respect

Look realistically at the person you are and the life you’re leading – there will most likely be a mix of things you like and things you would rather not admit.

Recognizing the positive and negative things about yourself gives you a realistic place to begin building a stronger foundation of self-respect.

Take time to appreciate those positive aspects and then create a few affirmations for the negative that you want to change – and put things in positive, present terms, and add a few words about how it feels to succeed.

For a couple of examples: instead of “I never get the things I need to do finished.” try saying “I work every day to accomplish my goals and I make good progress, and it’s so satisfying.” or, instead of “I am fat and can’t seem to lose weight.” try “I work on improving my health every day, and I feel a bit better each day.”

One little note: If the people in your life are negative – don’t talk to them about your desire and efforts to have a healthy sense of self – don’t share your positive changes with someone who only wants to hold you back – because it’s very easy to slip back into a negative pattern – your self-respect is an internal thing – others might notice your newly found positivity – but it is yours and yours alone.

Building Self-Confidence Helps Build Healthy Relationships

Being in a relationship can (and should) boost your self-confidence, but that’s not always how it works for people entering a relationship with low or damaged self-esteem.

Self-Confidence and RelationshipsIf you go into a relationship with low self-confidence, first, you’re more likely to doubt anything positive your partner sees in you, and also, you’re more likely to choose  a partner who is negative – who also has a low self-esteem level – and who reinforces your negative self-perception.

According to Dr. Alice Boyes, poor self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence can cause low-quality relationships – with less love, less trust, more conflict, more ambivalence, and less stability.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”                                – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Why Building Self-Confidence Helps Build Healthy Relationships

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”   – e.e. cummings

Build Healthy Self-ConfidenceBuilding your self-confidence helps you build healthier relationships, and it’s kind of like the saying on airplanes for emergencies – about putting on your own oxygen mask first because you can’t help anyone else if you can’t breathe.

Can you be in a relationship if you lack self-confidence and have no sense of self-esteem? Of course! People do it every day – but the quality of your relationships will most likely suffer under the weight of the negativity you experience on  a personal level.

Simple Confidence Boosters

“If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.”   – Thomas Alva Edison

While others can do positive, confidence-boosting things for you, and you for them, no one can build someone else’s self-confidence – by it’s very definition, self-confidence is an internal, personal evaluation of self-worth.

You can do external things for a quick self-confidence boost, like getting you hair done, or working out, or putting on a new outfit, but don’t ignore the value of making internal changes, too, because they provide a longer-lasting confidence boost.

There are many ways to build a foundation of healthy self-esteem; for example: help someone else, make a list of things you are grateful for, make a list of things you are good at, write down small goals you can quickly achieve and check them off as you do them, learn something new, or do something you’ve always wanted to do.

It’s hard to build a healthy relationship on the foundation of an unhealthy self-image, but it’s so easy to take advantage of things you can do to be more confident.