Logically, no one wants to feel lost in life, but once we have fallen into that type of destructive cycle, we often end up remaining stuck and wondering why we can’t break free and stop feeling lost.
Why We Get Addicted to Feeling Lost
Just like we can get addicted to feeling good, we can get caught in a pattern that leaves us feeling lost.ven though it’s a negative pattern and a feeling, it can become our “normal” and we can end up (subconsciously) recreating our lost feelings over and over.
Even though feeling lost develops as a negative pattern and is an unpleasant feeling, over time it can become our “normal” and we can end up (subconsciously) recreating our lost feelings… over and over and over.
What Does an Addiction to Feeling Lost Do to You?
Feeling lost is basically letting a sense of failure take over, and it gives us a sense of having failed ourselves – and the more times the cycle of loss recurs, the more the let-down feelings intensify.
My 6 Favorite Tips for Breaking an Addiction to Feeling Lost
As someone who spent years – decades actually – feeling lost, and who eventually found a way to break the cycle, I would like to share a few simple things that made all the difference for me.
- Own your feelings: Instead of thinking the things you feel are the result of external forces, recognize them as your own emotions.
- Set some long-term goals: Set goals for five or ten years down the road but don’t stop there – go on to analyze the things you need to do to achieve those goals and set them up as your smaller, short-term goals.
- Write things down: Seeing your plans in written form can inspire you to act on them – it can also help you catch weak spots in your plans so you can adapt the steps as needed.
- Take action: Pick one of your short-term goals and set it in motion – waiting – with no action – leaves you stuck in the feeling of being lost.
- Be adaptable: If you have spent a long time struggling, breaking free of a destructive cycle isn’t going to be easy, so expect to find flaws in your plans and be ready to jump into an alternative approach – and remember that it’s only failure if you completely give up.
- Set yourself up to succeed: This is especially important at first – make some of your short-term goals SO easy and SO small you can breeze right through them – this gives you a taste of success that you can use as a strong foundation for your bigger goals.
You can take control and take action to change your course if you are feeling lost in life, whether you find the right path or not is completely in your hands.