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Escaping The ‘rut’

Escaping The ‘rut’

By Roy Stuart Heeley

Stuck in a Rut?
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In my previous article I mentioned that “Thoughts become Things” and in order for you to get the things that you really want and desire you need to make sure that there is little or no contamination of your subconscious. Well that is easier said than done, as we all have baggage in our subconscious minds to some extent. The thing is we need to make a definite decision to clean up our mental act. If we don’t we are constantly attracting things that we don’t want. Thoughts become things whether those things are positive or not. So in order to achieve our goals and attain that which we desire we have to make sure that anything that might keep us back is eliminated.

Stuck in a Rut? How to Escape a Rut
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One of the things keeping you back from within your subconscious might be “Life Sentences”, as written about in my recent book “Freeing Your Mind!” If you have not read the book as yet, and still have no idea what a “Life Sentence” is I will give you the exact wording that I used in the book to explain the concept:“Life Sentences are sentences that you have heard or thought, and accepted as truth. It can be any sentence, a cliché, it could be something that was said frequently to you by your parents for example, or a once-off sentence spoken to you or by you or even only thought by you. You said it, or heard it and accepted it as truth in your life”. These Life Sentences as the book explains keep us in bondage from achieving all that we want to achieve, subconsciously often attracts negative elements into our lives and prevents us from reaching our goals. In actual fact they often keep you from even setting your goals in the first place.

The trick is first to start seeing the possibilities of these negative elements or “Life Sentences” in your subconscious. That’s really what this blog and my daily motivational and Power Lists are about. You see although each of us is unique in our own way, our minds work very much the same and in that way you are absolutely no different from me or anyone. One tends to look at people who succeed or achieve great things with some kind of awe. You might think they must have done something special, that they are more deserving than you, had more opportunities or we attribute some other misguided perceptions to them. You are not alone in that type of reasoning and that’s the problem. The vast majority of the world thinks like that and that’s simply not true.

We somehow think that we are not worthy, and that we were destined to live average lives.  In these blog articles I often talk about getting out of the “rut” and I thought perhaps I should clarify what a “rut” is.  Well you are in a rut if you do the same (similar) thing every day, not because you are happy, but because you did it yesterday, the day before, and the day before that and because other people as well as yourself have come to expect it of you. You also do it because it feels easier to just keep doing what you are doing than any possible alternative. You don’t necessarily have to be unhappy (although many people are) but you are not really over the moon either. Getting out of the rut does not necessarily mean a complete change of lifestyle. You could still be doing the majority of what you are doing now, you would be just be doing it for the right reasons and you could add some spark and some enthusiasm and some peace of mind to the mix.

You have all you need to be great right there within you! All it takes initially is for you to make that decision. It’s almost like saying that you must peer through the mind numbing clouds of average, lift your focus above the foggy fetters of mediocrity and glimpse the bright shiny diamond of hope.

I am offering to you, right here and now, a hand up. Imagine you are in a deep ditch and I am reaching down offering you a hand to pull you up out of it. You have been keeping an eye out for that hand otherwise you would not have been reading this. So reach up in your mind’s-eye right now as I am reaching down in my own mind to you!  Grab hold of my hand and I will pull you out of that rut! Say out loud; “I can do this! I will do this! I owe it to myself to do this.” Stand up walk around a bit. Breathe in deeply, and feel the energy, the rush and waves of a new beginning come over you. And that is the start! You are on the brink of success. Is there some hard work to do? Sure! Are there some habits to break? No doubt! But the decision is made – average is not an option anymore!

The next step is to start working on your self-image, as often this is the reason we got stuck in the rut in the first place. I have mentioned this in prior articles as well. A good way of doing this is by getting a journal! You might think that writing stuff down is stupid, or not necessary but in actual fact writing things down in black and white (same as with goals) helps you to understand and visualise any problems you need to overcome, it helps to imprint positive images in your mind and it also helps you to track and see your own self-growth. I personally use an A4 hardcover school exercise book, but don’t specifically wait till you have one of those. Open up a page in your MSWord or even Notepad or find a piece of black paper. Put a big heading on one page stating “I will overcome …” and write down some of the things you are struggling with in your own mind about yourself underneath it so that you will know and acknowledge the fact that they are things that need to be dealt with and know that soon you will have conquered them. There is much truth in the old saying “face your fears”. Open another page by writing down some positive things about yourself. “I am alive” “I am able to write” “I can think” “I deserve to succeed”.  This is only the start of building a good self-image.

You also need to start reading and listening to good stuff. In a way feed your mind some “good food”. After all we are what we eat, and the same goes for our minds. Clutter it up and stuff your mind with junk food and negativity and negative thoughts will fatten it up. My book “Freeing Your Mind” is an excellent easy read and a definite first step to helping you on your new course of action. It will also help you to lose some “mind weight” by targeting some of those negative elements in your subconscious to help rid you of them. I will revisit “Life Sentences” in the next article to tell you a bit more about it but if you can’t wait for the next article or if you want the full picture behind it as the blog articles will only touch on the basics anyway due to the length, then buy the book and get out of your rut today. Also this blog contains some good filler material, so read back into prior articles or search the internet for related material. There is plenty of other stuff to support you out there.  Sign up for my daily motivation, if you need a little support and encouragement every day. Write to me and tell me of your decision and your plans. I would love to hear from you.

You can do this and I will be glad to help!

Remember Henry Ford’s saying: “If you think you can or think you can’t, you are right”. I think you can and now you need to think and know you can too … all that’s left is that you are now going to think you can also!

The 3 P`s for Success

The 3 P`s for Success

By: Daniel Dunoo

The 3 P's for Success
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“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success” –Napoleon Hill.

While a Marketing student about a decade ago, we were taught the 4 P’s in our first year and later taught the 7 P’s. This categorization made it much easier to remember the variables of what in Marketing parlance is termed the Marketing mix. Akin to the 4 P’s of the marketing mix is what the world renowned Best-selling motivational author, Napoleon Hill considers “an unbeatable combination for success” and which I prefer to term “the 3 P’s for success.” These include patience, persistence and perspiration as itemized by Napoleon Hill in the quote above. It is my candid opinion that the 3 P’s for success are non-negotiable and are an absolute necessity on the route to success. In as much as these traits are certainly not the only requirements for success, they are irreplaceable.
Success may mean different things to different people. However, for the purpose of clarity and in the context of this write-up, I wish to define success as completing an objective or reaching a goal. A young person who aims at becoming a millionaire at age forty and who eventually achieves it within the specified period of time may be considered to have succeeded. Another who dreams of graduating from the university with a degree in Law and who in time graduates with a degree in Law has in essence succeeded in reaching his or her goal. Success simply has to do with accomplishing ones dreams, goals and aspirations.

Patience

It was Jean-Jacques Rousseau, the Genevan philosopher, writer and composer who once rightly noted: “Patience is bitter, but its fruits are sweet.” This is exemplified in vivid terms in the occupation of farming. Farmers plant their crops with expectation of a harvest but also with the understanding that they will have to wait for weeks, months or even years, depending on the kind of crops planted. They thus plant their crops and provide the necessary care while they wait patiently for harvest time. It will be mission aborted and certainly a misnomer should a cultivator of Chinese bamboo trees destroy what he or she has planted (while still below the earth surface) with the pretext that the trees he or she planted are not growing or that they are taking too long to grow. It is common knowledge that the Chinese bamboo takes a couple of years to as much as shot out of the ground, let alone grow into maturity. The point of this illustration is to drum home the fact that in life, any accomplishment of significance takes time; sometimes longer than one may expect. This makes patience a necessity, less great dreams are aborted. Thomas Alva Edison once noted: “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” If only they had been a little more patient. Anold H. Glasow made an insightful and brilliant observation when he stated: “The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.”

Persistence

The value of persistence on the route to success cannot be overemphasized. It simply is a must have if one is to go far in life. Thomas Alva Edison, the prolific inventor and entrepreneur once stated: “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Similarly, Elbert Hubbard, American writer, publisher, artist and philosopher stated thus: “A little more persistence, a little more effort, and what seemed hopeless failure may turn to glorious success.”Samuel Johnson, English poet, essayist, editor and lexicographer caps it up when he observed thus: “Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance.”

The struggles of Abraham Lincoln, the famed and revered former United States president epitomizes the virtue of persistence in the pursuit of one’s dreams and aspirations. In 1831, Abraham Lincoln failed in business. In 1832, he was defeated for State legislator. In 1833, Abraham Lincoln tried a new business, and failed. In 1835, his fiancée died. In 1836, Abraham Lincoln had a nervous breakdown. In 1843, Abraham Lincoln ran for Congress and was defeated. In 1848, Lincoln ran again, and was defeated. In 1855, Lincoln run for the Senate, and lost. In 1856, he ran for vice president and lost. In 1859, Lincoln ran again for the Senate. He was defeated. In spite of such a long streak of humiliating failures, he incessantly chose the path of persistence. It eventually paid off when in 1860; Abraham Lincoln was elected president of the United States. A perceptive mind wisely noted: “What matters most is not how many times you fail, but that you never stop trying.”

Perspiration

Perspiration essentially connotes hard work as against slothfulness. It was Thomas Alva Edison who retorted thus: “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.” He further noted: “There is no substitute for hard work.” This observation ought not be taken lightly especially when it comes from one credited with numerous inventions, the first industrial research laboratory, and one who held over 1,093 patents in his name across the United States, United Kingdom, France and Germany. His phenomenal accomplishments are well documented and speak for themselves. Hard work obviously pays. If you doubt this, ask the ant. Even when people speak of working smart, it still boils down to hard work; thinking is hard work and thinking is a necessary route to working smart.

One of my all-time favourite inspirational quotes comes from the pen of the renowned poet, scholar and novelist, Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. He creatively underscored the value of hard work when he once stated: “The heights that great men reached were not by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night.” A similar train of thought can be inferred from a statement attributed to Ray Bradbury, an American novelist, essayist, playwright, screen writer and poet when he sought to give some encouragement to persons who aspired to be writers. He noted: “Any man who keeps working is not a failure. He may not be a great writer but if he applies the old-fashioned virtue of hard, constant labour, he’ll eventually make some kind of a career for himself.”
For as many as desire to succeed in one area or the other, the ball is in your court. Go ahead, play it and play it well fully armed with the 3 P’s of success and you have it made. Patience, persistence and perspiration most certainly make an indefatigable and indomitable mishmash for success.

I am a Freelance writer, Professional marketer and the founder of Top-notch Writing Solutions. I have written for several magazines including HR Focus Magazine, MM Focus Magazine, Optimum Magazine and Step Magazine. My articles, short stories and poems have also been featured in several newspapers in my home country and on over twenty websites and blogs. I am always available for hire. Email: dudelda3@yahoo.com Blog: http://danieldeladunoo.blogspot.com /http://theroyalwordsmithgh.wordpress.com

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How Your Smile Can Be So Powerful

How Your Smile Can Be So Powerful

By Avery White

How Your Smile Can Be So Powerful
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Have you ever heard the saying, your smile is your best accessory? A simple smile can brighten up a day, isn’t it? Have you ever had a bad day, and then you see a baby smile at you? Didn’t you feel as light as a feather? That simple gesture took away all your burdens and worries and suddenly you felt just good.

People don’t really realize how powerful a smile can be, it can make miracles, it works like magic. Imagine what you can do and perform just by flaunting your nice wide smile? And the best part about it is, it’s free! So, wherever you may go, don’t forget to flash those teeth and smile! Here are some of the best reasons why you should smile!

It’s good for your health

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Scientific studies show that when a person smiles, the brain releases a chemical message called endorphin. Endorphin when released, sends a feel-good message throughout your body, thus it relieves your stress and lowers your blood pressure. Smiling can also release natural pain killers which explain the sudden calmness you experience when you smile. It can also boost your immune system because it improves the immune function of your system because your body is more relaxed and at peace.

Thinking of having a facelift? Take a cheaper version by just smiling instead. Smiling lifts the face muscles so it will make you look younger!

It builds relationships

Have you ever experienced meeting someone on the bus or on the train and being good friends with that person just because you smiled at each other once?  The truth is, when you smile, you look friendlier and more approachable that people will immediately feel the positivity in your personality and be friends with you.

Smiling can also steer you away from any misunderstandings, even with the latest gadgets nowadays, a smile is still evident. Just when sending text messages you add that little smiley emoticon so your friend on the other line will not misinterpret our messages as sarcastic.

It can make you happier

Smiling is contagious! When one smiles, it can make another one smile too.  A smile can be some sort of a therapy that could turn every gray and blue day yellow.  Smiling has special powers that you can’t believe it is capable of doing, like calming fears, insecurities, hurt and anxiety.

Do not underestimate the power of your smile. Always remind yourself of the goodness of this simple act of positivity, put it in your reminders in your smartphone if need be.

5 Patience Quotes for When You Really Just Want to Kick Some Butt

By: Laure Justice

If you’re having one of those days where you are impatient and angry and just in one of those moods – you’re not alone because I am too – so these patience quotes are for you (and me) and I hope at least one of them helps you find your center and regain balance and a more even mood.

Patience Quotes for When You Are Having a Lousy Day
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5 Patience Quotes for When You Really Just Want to Kick Some Butt

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” -Joyce Meyer

I picked this Joyce Meyer quote for my first quote today because it speaks to exactly what is going on with me and I felt a tiny rush of “yes – this – exactly this” – when I saw it.

For me, I feel stuck as far as my work goes and I’m not sure what to do next – and it’s making me edgy and irritable.

If that’s where you are too, today, feeling stuck and irritable, whether it’s a relationship issue or a work issue, or something else altogether causing your impatience or frustration – if things are not just how you want them to be – the simple act of keeping your wits about you and focusing on the things that are good in your life can help you through it.

Patience Quotes

“Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.” – Robert Schuller

I picked this Robert Schuller quote because it’s so easy to rush to action when you are stressed because it’s human nature to want resolution and inner peace, but those hasty decisions are rarely ever the wisest choices.

I know – so well – that staying calm and waiting out an emotional hailstorm is just about the toughest thing to do, but it’s so important to hold on sometimes, and wait for the right answer instead of snatching hold of the first easy answer.

“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.” _ Napoleon Hill

It’s so easy to give up on something that’s hard, and while I believe there can be a time to let go, like if you’re in a relationship that is destroying you or a career that is floundering, if you know in your heart that you are doing what you are meant to do, then holding onto patience and persistence, and then throwing in some hard work will get you where you belong – maybe not on your desired time schedule – but in the long run.

Breathe Deep and Hold Onto Inner Peace

“How many a man has thrown up his hands at a time when a little more effort, a little more patience would have achieved success.” – Elbert Hubbard

Patience and Inner Peace
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If you’re struggling with patience right now, first, thanks for sticking with me this far and reading the patience quotes I picked to share today.

Just finding them and putting my thoughts into words has helped me get my breath and feel better about things, and I hope reading them has helped you, too.

When things get really hairy, remember to stop and take a deep breath or two before reacting.

Don’t make your decisions in haste if you can help it, because hasty decisions that are made when you are tense and all tied up in knots over a situation you don’t like, rarely turn out well.

“He that can have patience can have what he will.” – Benjamin Franklin

I wanted to end with this Benjamin Franklin quote because, well, I found it inspiring that one of history’s most famous people summed up the value of being patient and looking at the long-term results in a such a concise and beautiful sentence.

Change Your Bad Habits Into Good Ones!

Change Your Bad Habits Into Good Ones!

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Change Your Bad Habits Into Good Ones!
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All of us have bad habits that we know we shouldn’t be doing but we do them anyway.  Or, more accurately, we have a list of things we should be doing but we aren’t doing them!

You know the ones I’m talking about – regular visits to the gym, a healthy diet, dealing with an awkward customer or staff member, spending quality time with the family.  Whatever the reason, we often stand in our own way of living a truly amazing and rewarding life.

Here’s an effective way to change bad habits into successful habits that will have a powerful impact on your life for the better!

Successful people have adopted good habits that continue to move them forward in a positive manner in both their personal and business lives. Fortunately, success leaves clues. Identifying the steps that other successful people have taken to improve their lives, and you’ll discover how to enjoy the same outstanding results.

Check out this easy two step process to help you turn your bad habits into good ones:

Step One

End Bad Habits
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Take a good look at the bad habits that are holding you back. This might be an education in the obvious!  Make a list of all the habits that keep you unproductive. Here are some common examples of bad habits that prevent our success:

  • Poor communication
  • Lack of clarity of expectations
  • Not attending to paperwork
  • Working long days with no exercise and poor eating habits
  • Having your cell phone on all the time
  • Procrastinating
  • Lack of sleep and healthy life choices

Choose an accountability partner, like a coach or a positive mentor, to help you transition from bad habits to successful habits.  Make sure you work with someone who will call you out when needed and keep you accountable.

Step Two

Identify a role model or someone who is living a lifestyle you want.  Take them out for lunch and ask them good, pre-planned questions about their routine.  What clubs or networking events do they attend? How do they schedule their time? What is their daily routine?  Listen well and take notes becausethis will be your blueprint for adapting successful habits. So, ask away!

Truly successful people welcome the opportunity to help those who want to help themselves, so don’t hesitate to make contact as soon as you can!

You’ll also find lots of great advice and powerful ideas to implement by reading autobiographies of successful people.  For example, you’ll find excellent advice in the following books:

  • The GE Way by Jack Welch
  • The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People by Stephen Covey
  • The Power of Focus by Jack Canfield

Your decision to change bad habits to successful habits will be the most defining decision of your life, so chose wisely!

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Keeping it Simple

Keeping it Simple
by: Awarenessinstitute

Keeping it Simple
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Over the past few months, the concepts of stripping back the superfluous, simplifying and pulling apart the true meaning of integrity have been strong personal themes. For many people, there’s a drive to again inspect old patterns that continue to run happily in the background despite years of self-examination. Perhaps under the direction of a new global energy, there’s a sense of being able to lovingly let go of those things that have served us all well on one level, yet have offered excuses to stay small on another.

I came across Don Miguel Ruiz’ “The Four Agreements” the other day and it strongly resonated with this desire to pare back; to simplify; to become more real as a participant in this world and begin operating in a more authentic way.

With these 4 simple tenets, we could literally change the way we as humans operate in this world. How do they resonate with you? Please feel free to share your thoughts, we’d love to hear from you.

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

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A Serenity Garden For Your Home

A Serenity Garden For Your Home

Most people think about their backyard garden as a place to provide them peace and quiet, a place to relax after a busy day, or maybe a place to draw closer to God. Whether you rise early, to enjoy your garden before heading off to work, or come home from work and retreat to your garden to unwind, a serenity garden can help to induce a state of calmness.

A serenity garden does take some planning, and some care. There is no real format in how this type of garden should be structured. You need to think about what serenity means to you. The design of the garden should reflect your ideas on peace and tranquility. It can include your favorite colors, and comforting landscapes. You may want to jot your ideas on paper, to get an idea of what you want before you start planting the garden. Some common themes for a serenity garden are relaxation, spiritual themes, and memorial themes. You’ll want to locate the garden away from loud noises and strong odors. It should be in a location that will help promote tranquility.

When you start creating the garden, you should add features that reflect the theme. If you want a memorial theme, for example, you may want to add items that reflect a loved one who has passed on. If you want relaxation, a gazebo and/or furniture for lounging would be appropriate. Consider also the plants that you want in the garden. Varying shades of green fit in well with a relaxation garden, with touches of color from various flowers. Just be sure to provide a place to sit and relax, and enjoy your garden.

Rocks are another element that can be incorporated into a serenity garden. Rocks of varying sizes can be used to build walls or footpaths in the garden, as well as edging for a footpath. Or large rocks can be placed here and there throughout the garden to provide accents, and a contrast to the plants.

Wind chimes can add a gentle, relaxing sound to your garden. A waterfall or fountain will also add to the ambience of the garden. If you desire, you can also add speakers and an outdoor sound system to play music while you relax.

If you plan on using your garden after dark, you’ll want to think about illumination. Tiki torches or candles provide a gentle, flickering light. Just be sure the flames are a safe distance from any tree branches or anything flammable. Low voltage or solar lights can also be used to light a pathway, or to highlight certain features of the garden at night.

A garden is ever changing. Season to season, year to year, you’ll see the garden growing and changing. Your garden will continue to grow with you as you make changes to the garden, and as the garden makes changes to you. Whatever the size of the garden, from a small apartment balcony to a large backyard, you can create your own personal retreat, where you can relax, and find your peace and serenity.

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Affirmations – Positive Self-Talk

Affirmations – Positive Self-Talk
By Audrey Marlene Klingeman

Affirmations - Positive Self-Talk
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Imagine that your friend is down on herself and you want to encourage her by saying positive things to buoy her spirits. What are some of the things you will say to make her feel better?

The same thing goes for self. When you feel down or begin to doubt yourself, you also need to find words of encouragement to redirect your focus and stimulate positive thoughts within you. Talk yourself into feeling better. Allow the continuous flow of positive talk to replace your negative inner critic at work. Positive affirmations and self-talk helps to produce positive thinking.

When you talk to yourself in positive ways, this does not mean you are crazy. It only means:

  • You have found a brilliant way to motivate yourself.
  • You know how to positively reinforce your own efforts.
  • You are constantly reminding you of how capable you are.
  • You are suppressing your self-doubts and accentuating your strength and skills.
  • You are boosting your self-confidence.
  • You are staying true to your goals.
  • You are a winner!

Logically and rationally explain situations to yourself. Do it continuously making it a daily habit. It will propel you to new heights.

Benefits of Positive Affirmations

Success in life depends to a great extent on a positive state of mind. In order to accomplish any goal you must be optimistic and motivated to take action. There are times when discouragements and doubts set in and you are the only one available to bolster your spirits and get you motivated again. This is where the positive self-talk comes in handy.

Let us examine some common doubts and self-criticism and how to counter them with positive self-talk.

Negative thought: I can’t make it to the gym today. I don’t; feel like it.

Positive self-talk: I can do this. I know once I get to the gym I will feel better. Come on, let’s go. I can, I can I can do this.

Negative thought: I’m never going to finish this project on time.

Positive Self-talk: I know I can finish this project on time. If I do 1 more hour each day, I can pull it off. I can do this do. I know I can. I will get this done.

Negative thought: I am not good at anything, I wish I were ______.

Positive self-talk: I am capable. In the past I have been able to do____ and ____. I know I’m good and I can do anything I want. Yes, I can.

These are just some ideas of how to go about feeding positive information to you. Do this as many times you can throughout your day. Let it become habit forming. By doing so:

  • problems will be seen as challenges and you will confront difficult situations with ease
  • your perception of you will drastically improve each day
  • your confidence in your ability will heighten
  • your self-esteem will improve
  • your state of well-being will improve
  • you will gain more friends and influence others
  • you will have more self-control and discipline
  • you will achieve more

Science Behind Positive Affirmations

Through positive self-talk, we feed positive recognition of self to our subconscious. Once the self-talk is continuous, over time our conscious mind takes action and our behavior changes. This is a conditioning technique that you can use to self-motivate, which can lead to constructive outcomes in your lives.

The same works for negative self-talk. The inner critic slowly feeds negative feedback to the subconscious and before long your start believing the negative self-talk. Your persona changes and a downward spiral begin to take place in your life. The doldrums set in, self-doubt, weakened self-confidence, and then it becomes even more difficult to climb out of it.

We become what we feed our minds. Positive self-talk only works if you truly believe what you are telling yourself. If your affirmations are not genuine, the subconscious knows and they would be ineffective. You must believe the affirmations! They must be spoken without any doubt and with complete sincerity.

Positive self-talk only works when it is consistent. If conditioning must take effect it has to be continuous. The neurochemical pathways in the brain are reinforced with daily repetition of positive feedback to self. The subconscious can let go of the negative beliefs and they become slowly replaced by the positive information received. Post reminders in your car, office, at home, or school. Allow the visual cues to trigger affirmative statements of your worth.

Your attitude is a reflection of your thought process. You are what you think. The mental food your feed the mind determines your actions and behaviors. Feed positive affirmations and reap positive results.

Give Positive Affirmations

The wonderful thing about positive self-talk is that is comes from within you. You get the credit for motivating you, which is an empowering feeling. It is an opportunity to use the power within you to bring about valuable changes in your life.

The following are tips on how to carry out positive self-affirmations:

1. Always use the first person singular pronoun “I” when giving self-affirmations. Remember the affirmations are only to self, so they must be subjective in nature and addressed to you. This personalizes the affirmation and allows more conscious awareness of the constructive feedback. This slowly replaces the negative beliefs lodged in the subconscious.

2. The positive self-talk must be brief, short, positive statements. It must be easy to remember, powerful, concise verbalizations that can be repeated continuously like a mantra. For example, I am a good person, I am positive, I am ambitious, and I am motivated.

3. Positive affirmations must be spoken in the present tense. This means the feedback is already occurring. It is not something that will occur in the future or has happened and continues to happen. For example, avoid statements that begin with “I am going to”, or “I would like to.”

4. Positive self-talk must be realistic and believable. You cannot trick your subconscious into believing something that is not so. You also cannot believe other peoples criticisms of you. You must be real and true to self. Be open to receiving the truth about you and believe it.

5. Give yourself reminders. Use small post it notes to remind you of positive self-talk. Every time you find yourself saying something negative about yourself turn it around and replace it with something positive. Let this be habit forming.

Begin today to empower yourself by using positive self-talk and affirmations. Observe the transformation taking place in your life and give yourself the credit.

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How to Move from Emotional Stress to Rational Thinking

How to Move from Emotional Stress in to Rational Thinking

Deep Breathing to Reduce Emotional Stress
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Sometimes things happen and we just REACT! We often don’t know WHY we do some of the things we do- they’re just automatic. As you no doubt know, this can get us in trouble or leave us feeling guilty and confused.

We encounter situations that will trigger (emotional) reactions in us all of the time. We can re-train ourselves to filter out the stuff that is not useful to us; the stuff that causes us unnecessary stress and unhappiness. It just takes practice.

So how do I stop over-reacting to things?

Perception is everything!

When our brains perceive a situation or event as threatening in some way or it recognises a situation that has hurt or threatened us in the past it lets you know by releasing chemicals (notably adrenaline) around our bodies to ensure you are alert and are paying attention to the “threat”. Your brain may not entirely know what it is about this event which is troubling but it knows it’s cropped up before and needs you to protect yourself. This ‘fight or flight’ can of course be triggered when we are physically under threat but also when our emotions are threatened.

Our brains start storing this information from the time we are born and they can be triggered instantaneously as our brains work to keep us alive. Your brain doesn’t know whether it’s a real threat or a perceived one- it simply knows ‘Threat Detected- Send Adrenaline!’

You may believe ‘This is just who I am- I’m anxious and over react; a natural worrier’ but I doubt you were born this way. It has been learnt. And what has been learnt can be unlearnt!

Imagine Ella’s Dad left when she was three years old and this troubled her throughout her life. Her Mum died when she was 19 and she decided to find her Dad. When she approached him he rejected her saying he had made a new life.

Ella has experienced three major rejections (we often sub-consciously experience bereavement as being ‘left’), one of these in her very formative years; the years her brain makes sense of the world and works out ‘how things are done in life’. Is it not entirely normal that she will have a bigger reaction to any threats of rejection that someone who had not experienced this? Would it be surprising to find she feels insecure in relationships and friendships, gets jealous easily (even violent when feeling someone might leave her) and can sabotage good relationships so that she can leave them before they leave her?

These ‘fight or flight’ responses take over us momentarily but we have a choice about what happens next:

BREATHE

Taking oxygen in and filling your lungs does at least two things, it gets more oxygen into your body at a time when your brain has sent more blood to your limbs (to give you strength to run or protect yourself). This helps you think more clearly. Also it takes the focus away from the situation a little- if you count your breaths and focus on ‘in through the nose- out through pursed lips’ deep and slow breathing.

You may choose at this point to say “This is just chemicals- I am fine. This situation is triggering something from my past”

When you feel calmer you are ready to move your focus away from the issue a little and check out other explanations.

How is my past affecting my judgement of this situation?

Am I looking at this situation rationally or with high emotion? If it is triggering childhood stuff (even in a very non-obvious or indirect way) you will be in emotion and not thinking mode. Your body is fighting to keep you safe in this threatening situation. If you can calm yourself with breathing, use up the adrenaline by running up and down the stairs or running on the spot for a moment you may be ready to see things more rationally.

What am I focussing on? What am I not seeing?

If I am entirely fixated on the issue I cannot see what else is going on. Those people that sniggered when they walked by may have been talking about something or sharing a joke. How do I know it was aimed at me?

Challenge your negative thinking — look at the evidence calmly and rationally.

If you are only seeing one aspect, dispute this as fact and look at other possibilities.

GET RATIONAL

When faced with problems, widen your focus to see MORE of the situation before you act. Emotions are extremely valuable and important and they can also cloud our judgement when in stressful situations. We can practice moving in to rational thinking, away from emotional feeling at those times when we are likely to make bad decisions. Of course we must trust our feelings and instincts, while remembering that our brain is basing its reactions on events we experienced often as very small children.

When faced with situations that trigger strong emotions, trouble you or just feel wrong check what you are focussing on and shine the light around the situation so that you can see MORE and see things in a different way. This simple skill can save you hours and years of heartache, stress and worry with practice.

Shine a Light AROUND the Problem!
About the Author
John Toman is a life coach and assertiveness trainer based in the UK, with more than 15 years experience in positive behaviour change. He works with individuals and groups to improve self awareness, interpersonal skills and relationships, so that they can have the relationships they always wanted. He provides one to one coaching and group training at johntoman.com

The Sky Is Not the Limit – The Power Of Positivity

The Sky Is Not the Limit – The Power Of Positivity

By Aaron Ngoh

The Power of Positivity
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We often hear the phrase “The sky is the limit” and often we hear this when the people around us are expressing their negative feelings on the topic at hand. But do you know that there is another phrase that contradicts this cliche? The phrase “nothing is set in stone” is the one that many successful people use whenever they try or aim for something and that, with the power of positivity, can make anything in this world possible.

The Power of Positivity

People who are successful use the power of being positive in everything they do. One of the concepts that is practiced in positivity is the law of attraction. The law of attraction might be a scientific concept but it is never truer and more applicable than to our society today. Many researchers believe that what people surround themselves with becomes their own actions and thoughts later on. It might not be obvious or apparent at the start and this surprises many when their actions or feelings are observed later on. This is the reason many sociologists or therapists recommend that individuals should surround themselves with positive things to ward off negative feelings.

Another area of being successful is to envision one’s own desires and put it into action. Oftentimes, one wants to achieve something but lacks the desire to see it through. Many people blame others for their failure to reach their goals which produces negative results as well. When one wants to become successful, it is important to focus and put their thoughts into actions and carry the responsibilities that come with achieving what they want in life. By taking responsibilities and initiative, one is more concentrated and motivated to reach their goals in life.

What to do to Harness Positivity

When people want changes to happen to their life, they need to understand that they have to leave their comfort zone and start taking charge of their lives. It may be uncomfortable at the start and even cause friendships to end, but sometimes changes can be awkward but may also be the best thing to happen to your life. Cut the negativity that runs in your life – people who you think will drag you down and negative thoughts and envision what you want your life to be. Surround yourself with positive things, find mentors, visualize what you want and you will wake up one day and realize that you have achieved what you want to do and are happier than you were before.

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