Category Archives: Positivity

3 Elegant and True Ralph Waldo Emerson Quotes

Ralph Waldo Emerson was one of the founders of the mid-19th century transcendental movement, known for his profound and inspiring way of thinking, his eloquent speeches and his stirring writing style. These three profound Emerson quotes are always true, even though the language in them is a bit dated.

Ralph Waldo Emerson
Ralph Waldo Emerson image by Artist: Eastman Johnson [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Emerson on the Law of Nature

“The law of nature is, do the thing, and you shall have the Power; but they who do not do the thing have not the Power.”

While Emerson used the word Power in this quote, note that he capitalized it because it meant more than the type of power we typically think of when hearing the word. The Power is the Result of your efforts.

This quote invites you to take the action in life that is going to give you the results you want. And, it also kind of warns you that if you choose not to act, you most likely won’t get what you want.

Emerson on Love

“Love and you shall be loved. All love is mathematically just, as much as two sides of an algebraic equation.”

The catch that goes with this quote is – we often try to ‘command’ love. For example – someone may think or say, “I love him, but he doesn’t love me back, so this quote isn’t true.”

The thing is, you can’t command love and you can’t or shouldn’t try to impose your will on someone else. The love you give might not come back to you from the person you give it to.

That doesn’t mean the equation is untrue, it means love comes to each of us in its own way and in its own time. And, the term love in the quote doesn’t necessarily mean romantic love, it may mean friendship.

It may be the love of a pet or someone ill who you are caring for, or someone who cares for you when you get sick or infirmed. It’s just so much bigger than the love you find in a  single relationship, and it’s easy to get caught up in thinking about love as only being romantic in nature.

Emerson on Pride and Weakness

“As no man had ever a point of pride that was not injurious to him, so no man had ever a defect that was not somewhere made useful to him. Every man in his lifetime needs to thank his faults. Our strength grows out of our weakness.”

I picked this Emerson quote to add here because vanity, pride, and boastfulness are such a waste of time and energy and they only bring down the ones who tap into them. People who are amazing don’t need to tell you that they are amazing – because you already KNOW.

Plus, some of the most amazing, talented people you could ever hope to encounter, developed that amazingness and their skills – in whatever field – through pain and weakness that was out of their control.

Ralph Waldo Emerson passed away in 1882, so the grammatical styles have changed even though his messages hold true today and always.

By Laure Justice

Experiencing Gratitude

So many people in my life have experienced great loss this past year, it makes me feel  a little… off… trying to write about gratitude. Today is a day for giving thanks, though, so I want to send out some simple, positive thoughts about being thankful.

Experiencing Gratitude
Experiencing Gratitude image courtesy of Pixabay

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” -Melody Beattie

Gratitude and the Holiday Season

So often, Thanksgiving, and the whole holiday season for that matter, gets tied up in expectations that peace and joy are going to bring so much fulfillment to everyone’s lives. Then, the “big day” rolls around and passes – maybe with plenty to be thankful for – maybe not, and everything is still the same at the end of the day. Then all those positive feelings slip away and it’s kind of a bummer.

The Key…

It’s worth trying to focus on those positive feelings, though. Going back to the Melody Beattie quote – “Gratitude unlocks…” There’s a hidden truth there. Gratitude… thankfulness… it’s more than a feeling you have sometimes. It’s the key that helps you open the door to a more peaceful, fulfilled life.

Is In Your Hands

Gratitude alone won’t fix things, after all, it’s just a key. You have to turn it in the lock. You may even have to fix the lock first. You have to push open the heavy door that’s been made up from your burdens in life so far. You have to walk down the unfamiliar corridor that leads to a better place in life.

What Experiencing Gratitude Does for You

What gratitude does do, is it lets you breathe. It lets you know peace. It connects you emotionally with something bigger than yourself so you can heal and find a way through the dark times.

No matter what is going on in your life as you read this, my wish for you is that you are able to experience gratitude, if not for every little thing in your life, for something. And, I wish you peace and a happy, blessed Thanksgiving.

I picked the Melody Beattie quote above because, one, it’s about gratitude and today is Thanksgiving, and two, one of her books had a huge influence on me. The book was called Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, and it helped me see my own role in the problematic relationships in my life. (FYI – that’s an affiliate link.)

By Laure Justice

 

What Did You Want to Be When You Were a Kid?

While I was walking today, I started thinking about what I wanted to be when I was  a kid, how that changed over the years, and how I felt about it; so I’m wondering about other people’s experiences with the same topic. What I wanted to be “when I grew up” changed over the years, based on books I read and TV shows I watched, and I guess, on how life knocked me around. Sound familiar?

What Did You Want to Be When You Grew Up?
What Did You Want to Be When You Grew Up? image courtesy of Pixabay

So Many Life Choices

We start making life choices when we’re really young, even if we are too young to realize it. The thing that really changes as we grow up, is when we’re young, our decisions get made for us.  When we get older, we get to make our own choices, and even not making a choice, is a choice. Here’s what I mean, using myself as an example…

Some Decisions Get Made for You

When I was little, like Kindergarten age and younger, I wanted to be a ballerina. Or a princess. Or a writer. I didn’t really care which. To me, they were all amazing because two of them got to wear pretty pink clothes and one gets to play with words and letters all day. (I almost got to take ballet classes, but someone who might as well remain nameless decided I was too fat to be a ballerina.) That’s another story, really, but it’s a perfect example of an adult making a life choice for a child. (By the way, I would still really LOVE to be a princess or ballerina.)

Fate and the laws of nature decided I didn’t get to do this next pair of examples. As I got older, popular media kicked in and I really wanted to be a genie (thanks to I Dream of Jeannie) or a witch (thanks to Bewitched.) Again, I didn’t really care which, I just wanted to be “magic” – you know – something bigger and more exciting than a kid sitting in a room watching TV. Unfortunately, I didn’t know any good spells that worked and no matter how many times I jumped off that picnic table, I just could NOT fly!

Some Things You Choose for Yourself

There were other things over the years that I wanted to do, like being  a lawyer so I could help people who were treated unfairly, and being an interpreter so I could help people understand one another. Choices I made, by not staying in college when I was younger, took these out of the equation for me. Going back to college when I was older opened the doors for me to become a writer. (Finally – one of my childhood dreams came true, because I chose it and worked for it.)

A Common Thread in Your Early Life Goals

But, there’s a common thread, and I’m suggesting you look for your common thread…

Everything I ever wanted to be was either creative, empowering, or centered on helping others – and I find it satisfying incorporating those things into my writing. So, maybe, if you, for whatever reason, aren’t living the life of your dreams… maybe you can find a common thread in the things you’ve always loved, and make that common thread part of your life going forward.

So, anyway… this is getting long, and my point isn’t that some things happened to me when I was a kid.

My point is, I hope you’ll take a moment to think back to what you wanted to be when you were a kid.

  • Did you achieve your childhood dream, or some version of it?
    • If you didn’t, it isn’t too late.
  • Are there common threads in the things you dreamt of being?
    • You may have to dig to find them, but they are usually there and worth the effort and time spent soul-searching.
  • Can you, today, make choices that make your life more satisfying and fulfilling?
    • I would love to hear your thoughts on this, so please share if you feel inspired to.

You can’t undo decisions that were made for you when you were a child, and you can’t change your own past decisions either, but you can look for ways to honor that child inside of you who wanted to be magic, or a ballerina, or a lawyer, or whatever YOU wanted to be.

 

When You’re Just Not Feeling It…

I haven’t posted much here lately, and that’s because I just haven’t been feeling it… My positivity… my enthusiasm… etcetera, etcetera, etcetera… just not feeling it. Giving into that blah feeling and accommodating it with inaction was a mistake, though, and if you do the same thing when you’re just “not feeling it” this post is for you!

Don't Just Hit the Pause Button When You're Just Not Feeling It!
Don’t Just Hit the Pause Button When You’re Just Not Feeling It! image courtesy of Pixabay

Taking Action Makes You Feel Better About Yourself!

I actually just summed up everything I wanted to say in that that one sentence, but I want to add some details to explain why taking action is such a positive thing.

When you summon your inner strength and take action against the things that hold you back, like negative thoughts and your fears, according to Dr. Goldman of Psychology Today, it makes you stronger. Goldman recommends understanding and admitting your fears so you can overcome them.

I like that suggestion, but I also think there’s a fine line between analyzing the fears and emotions that hold you back, and wallowing in them. If you don’t see a post here on Intrinsic Vicissitude from me fairly often, it’s a fair bet that I’ve crossed that line from analyzing to wallowing.

So, where’s your line? And, what can you do today that puts you on the side of the line that lets you bring positivity to your life? 

Exercise Helps With a Blah Mood

Okay, that’s not really news… medical experts have been saying it for years. But… and I feel this is a big BUT… when you get bummed, and blah, and you’re just not feeling it, getting even a little bit of exercise can feel as daunting as the idea of climbing  a mountain.

The thing, is, it doesn’t take a lot of exercise to boost a blah mood, and it doesn’t have to be exercise that you hate. The kinds of exercise I enjoy tend to be kind of silly and playful, like dancing when I’m alone in my room. The problem is, when I’m bummed, I don’t think about it and I just sit here, being bummed.

According to WebMD, exercise is an effective, underused way to treat depression that’s mild to moderate. And really, isn’t that blah feeling a form of mild depression?

Simple Actions That Make You Feel Positive

If you don’t feel like getting up and working out, I get it. There are still some easy things you can do to boost your mood.  get dressed up, smile at yourself in the mirror, and do something you’ve been putting off. It doesn’t have to be big, the fact that you’re checking something off of your to-do list is a simple way to give yourself a burst of positivity.

One last idea, turn on some music that you love, and sing along with it. If you feel up to it, go ahead and dance a little bit, too. And try not to laugh too hard when you picture me dancing around my room all by myself.

By Laure Justice

 

Positive Quotes About Unlocking the Secret of Life

I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t know the secret of life (I wish I did) so I turned to successful people through the ages who provided quotes about the secret of life and the secret of success to create this post.

Unlocking the Secret of Life
Secret of Life Quotes image courtesy of Pixabay

The Secret to Changing Your Life

“The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

Think of how many times you’ve railed and fought against the circumstances of your life. It’s so easy to get caught up in where we are, that we don’t see the possibilities that could happen if we just expand the perimeter, shift our focus, or open up the box and think outside of it.

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of success is found in your daily routine.” – Author unknown

The Secret to Changing Your Future

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” – Mark Twain

It’s normal to want assurance of a positive outcome before you start something. The problem with waiting is, we don’t get guarantees about how life is going to go. The best we can do is get ready, psychologically, without overthinking so much the opportunity is lost.

“Before everything else, getting ready is the secret of success.” – Henry Ford

The Secret Value of Uncertainty

The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine. – Mike Murdock

Almost everyone falls into a routine where the same things happen, in the same order, day in and day out. It’s really rare that anyone breaks out of a routine that isn’t working by sticking with the routine. It’s when you start to make changes in your routine that you start to see changes.

All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware. – Martin Buber

Don’t worry if you don’t know how it’ll turn out. If you aren’t satisfied, just start, even if you start small in making routine changes, it’s progress, and if one approach doesn’t work, be like a GPS; recalculate, then go another direction.

No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit. – Helen Keller

The Secret of Using Your Inner Values

Don’t let your special character and values, the secret that you know and no one else does, the truth – don’t let that get swallowed up by the great, chewing complacency. – Aesop

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By Laure Justice

How Do You Find Your Life’s Purpose?

There are a lot of good reasons to know your life’s purpose; knowing helps you make decisions that get you where you want to go in life, it leaves you fulfilled when you’re working toward your goals, and knowing your purpose reduces the uncertainty you may feel in life. But what if you’re not one of those lucky people who just instinctively knows what your purpose is?

Lifes Purpose
Lifes Purpose image courtesy of Pixabay

What Can You Do to Find Your Life’s Purpose?

Start by asking yourself some questions, and be really honest with yourself. If you enjoy writing, write down your thoughts and feelings as you go through the questions, and if one or any of the questions don’t resonate with you, skip it and move on to the next one. You can even think up your own questions, these are just examples to get you started as you think about why you’re here on this earth.

Why Am I Here?

Think about what you were like as a child, and then think about your life now.

  • What did you love to do as a child that you no longer do?
  • What things did you care the most about as a child?
  • How did you picture the life you would have as an adult when you were looking ahead and dreaming?
  • What things about your current lifestyle would make the young you want to cry?

Think about the things you haven’t done yet.

  • If your life were ending in a day, or a year, and you knew your time was limited, what would you regret leaving undone?
  • How do you want to be remembered and what do you want to be remembered for?
  • How long can you keep waiting to cross things off your bucket list before you have to admit you aren’t going to get to do them if you don’t just choose and take action?

Think about what you love and what inspires you today and just start.

  • Does there have to be only one purpose?
    • I’ll admit here, that when I think about the purpose of my life, I don’t pick up on one clear answer.
    • Still using myself as an example, I love my family and friends, I love writing, I love animals, I love sewing, I love classic cars, I love helping and inspiring people, the list goes on and on and on.
    • So, I sat down with my journal, because that’s how I think things through, and I wrote, and wrote, and wrote, about my feelings about my life’s purpose.
    • If you like journaling, I highly recommend it as a way to process your thoughts.
    • When I got to the question about what I would regret not having done if my life were to end in a year, the answer was that I would regret not putting more positive things out there in the world, and since writing is both my job and one of my great passions, here I am, using words to share positivity.
  • What can you choose to do today, and go ahead and start?
    • Taking action is a positive thing, even if you don’t know if the thing you choose is your true life’s purpose.
    • It’s okay to readjust your focus as you go if you find the thing you chose isn’t perfect or if it starts to feel like it isn’t your purpose, because so often, it’s in the action steps that we find our real destinations and we find things we love.

You may not instinctively know your life’s purpose, and you may not know even after these soul searching exercises, and that’s okay, and pretty normal. But, don’t let the decision-making process be where your quest for your life’s purpose ends.

Latch onto the things you know you want, like if you know you want to own your own business but not what kind of business, take some steps to make yourself ready. Study the field that inspires you, and dip your toes in the water. Start small if you need to. You don’t have to go all in, just start on the path your heart tells you is right.

By Laure Justice

Action or Eclipse?

Sometimes in life, it feels like you’re just spinning your wheels. You get stuck in a rut or a bad situation and your life just isn’t going the way you want it to go. So, what do you do?

Lunar Eclipse
Lunar eclipse image courtesy of Pixabay

You can keep thinking it over, using the same thought processes that got you where you are – stuck in a rut – or you can try looking at it from a different angle, consider some unorthodox ( and probably scary) ideas for getting unstuck, make a decision, and take action. Could you fail? Absolutely! What’s the alternative? If you stay stuck in your rut that isn’t making you happy or giving you any satisfaction in life, you’ve already failed, haven’t you? So, maybe it’s time to try something else.

What Does an Eclipse Have to Do With It?

We pretty much all start out as kids. full of enthusiasm for life, excitement about the future, and loaded with expectations about the lives we’re going to lead. We’re like the full moon, or the sun, (emotionally) big and ready to do something amazing. Then, life kicks the crap out of us, and our hopes, dreams, and expectations get smaller, and smaller, and smaller. Pretty soon, full eclipse, we’re just shadows of our former selves. Shadows of the people we are meant to be.

“The time for action is now. It’s never too late to do something.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

But, it doesn’t have to be like that. Do you know those people we see on TV and in the news, leading big lives – the kind of life you dream of living? Those people aren’t just lucky (well, some of them are, and some of them are born to rich parents that start them off well) those people, for the most part, are the people who considered the options,  made decisions, took action in spite of the possibility of failure, and kept trying till they found a way to ‘get it right’

“Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.” – Peter Drucker

When you start to take action, it’s like you’re moving out of the total eclipse phase of your life, and your light starts to show again. Just like a real solar eclipse or lunar eclipse, it doesn’t show all at once, but it does show. More than showing, you feel it, in your heart, and once it starts, you want it to keep going. There will be times you have to rely on faith, and that isn’t always easy if you’ve had a rough way to go. But, if you have the intelligence and interest to make a change, to just start and try, then you deserve to know that you can do it.

“Never mistake motion for action. – Ernest Hemingway

Solar Eclipse
Solar eclipse image courtesy of Pixabay

“Action is the real measure of intelligence.” – Napoleon Hill

You can think an idea to death, you really can. (I’ve done it SO many times, myself.) Opportunities come and go quickly. If you’re sitting on the fence, so to speak, thinking it over, waiting on it to be perfect and easy, someone else is going to snatch your great idea out of the ether, and they’re going to run with it. Then, you’re going to be wondering why someone else is getting rich and living the good life, and it’s because they had an idea and took action instead of waiting for every detail to be perfect.

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Tony Robbins

It’s normal to WANT everything to be lined up perfectly and ready to go when you start something new. Unfortunately, life rarely delivers that kind of tidy package. Some amount of risk lies behind every opportunity for success. (That risk is called ‘the chance it might not work out’.) Only you can decide what you’re willing to put into something, whether it’s a personal relationship, a career, or any other type of dream.

“Action may not bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.” – William James

The only thing you know for sure is, if you don’t make a decision and take action, you can’t really expect anything other than what you have right now. And if that was satisfying to you, you probably wouldn’t have just read this whole article trying to find out how to stop spinning your wheels get unstuck, and get your eclipsed inner light to shine again.

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By Laure Justice

Weekly Motivation Note Card

Motivation and positive thinking are finely tuned, highly functional muscles in the body, spirit and mind that are often neglected. Just as you would not go to the gym once and expect to be extremely fit and healthy, you can not simply read a self-help book, or do one set of affirmations and anticipate motivational success.

Motivation Note Card Tips
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How to Use the Weekly Motivation Note Card System

By IWrite4U!

The Weekly Note Card is a great organization habit to keep you focused, goal-centered, and driven throughout each week. The idea is that you fill a personalized note card each week with a positive quote, goal, reassurance, affirmation and where you would like to be at the end of the week and then carry it with you at all time and reference it throughout.

What You’ll Need

In order to get started, all you will need to purchase is a pack of standard 3×5 note cards. I prefer packs that offer a variety of colors so I can use the different colors to have different overall meanings, for instance:

Red Card: a very emotionally exciting color, red actually increases respiration and heart rate – I will use if I have a big week of projects or major test or presentation
Yellow Card: associated with joy, creates a warming effect – will use if it is a rainy week or there is possible gloom on the horizon
Green Card: symbolizes growth, harmony, and freshness – will use if I am feeling stagnated or anxious

How to Make it Work

Once you have your selected your preferred card it will be time to fill it! Try to lay out a schedule for yourself in when and where you create the card and also reference it at home. I find that Sunday evenings work best for making the new card for the week as it lays out your mental road map. In practice, I will keep the card on my nightstand if I am home, or on my bathroom counter, so that it is the first thing that I see when I wake up and last at night.

Allow yourself to be creative in your composition but try to stick to the card format of:

Affirmation: Speak in the first person and be specific. Some examples:
– I am in charge of my mood
– I have everything that I need to make this a great day
– When I breathe I inhale confidence and exhale timidity

Positive Quote: Search and select something that resonates with you. Some people keep books they quote (Bible, Collections, Poems) or some just reference web searches – either works!

Goal: What would you like to accomplish this week?
– Spend more time with kids
– Take wife out on date

Thing to work on: What would you like to see different in yourself?
– Be more patient with your employees
– Be humble about your successes

Compose your card and keep it on your person at all times throughout the week (wallet or purse works great). Whenever you have a moment pull out the card and reference it and overlay it with your present moment to check in and exercise the ambition and positivity muscles. At the end of the week, look into what you could have done better and where you ended up, and use it as a platform for your next card! Have fun with the practice and enjoy the positive growth that is summoned within you!

Relax With Some Quotes About Relaxation

I haven’t posted here in a while, I guess I haven’t really been feeling the positivity of it all, but I wanted to pop in today and share some quotes I found about relaxing, because I just thought they were kind of nice.

Relaxation Quotes
Serenity Pool image courtesy of Pixabay

3 Classic Relaxation Quotes

“Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.”                                                   – William S. Burroughs

I like this quote because it made me stop and think about all the times I’ve been really struggling to find a solution to a problem, but I was so caught up in the problem I couldn’t see a way through. Then, when I finally just let go, the answer would come to me in a dream or out of blue when I was doing something totally unrelated. Have you ever had that happen? I’ve heard it’s really common – kind of a ‘you can’t see the forest for the trees’ kind of  a thing.

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”      – Sydney J. Harris

This one is like the second half of the thought from the first quote, because when you’re under stress or feeling sad, that’s when you most need answers, and it’s when you can’t possibly find them because it’s so hard to relax and let your mind think about anything other than the problem.  It just feels like you have to work harder, and that ‘power through it’ mindset can be the thing holding back from finding a solution.

“When the solution is simple, God is answering.”                 – Albert Einstein

I was struggling to find the right quote to end this post – I should have known I would find it in Einstein’s words. So, here’s why I picked this as the last of my 3 quotes  about relaxation to share with you today; when you just relax, and be still, and let yourself move and think outside the parameters of your current existence; when the solution to something that has been making you struggle and ache just comes to you out of the blue, when it’s finally clear, and it’s finally simple, then you know the answer came from a source bigger than yourself.

By Laure Justice

 

Can New Years Superstition Mess Up Your Happy New Year Wishes?

New Years superstitions, like kissing our loved ones at midnight on New Years Eve to ensure they stay with us the entire year or eating a plate of pork and sauerkraut for a year’s worth of good luck, tend to become part of a family’s yearly practices and a family’s story – but honoring mystical thinking by bowing to superstition isn’t the key to having a great year.

Happy New Year Wishes
Happy New Year Wishes image courtesy of Pixabay.

New Years Superstition vs Happy New Year Wishes

Luck is exactly that – luck – it can be good or bad and it’s completely random.

Relying on superstitions, which are in fact nothing more than imagination, to give you good luck is adding pretending to randomness, and it basically amounts to getting exactly the same results you already have and if you had a bad year or an average year last year, then it is just inviting another bad or average year in the coming year.

Simply Accepting the Imagination Behind Superstition Plus the Randomness of Luck Just Equals More of the Same Random (Good or Bad) Luck You Already Have!

Successful New Years Wishes

The word wishes is really the wrong word here, because the solution is really based in goal-setting, and applying action to making your new year resolution (or new year resolutions if you have more than one) a reality instead of a wispy, ethereal hope.

Avoid the kind of new years resolutions where you are going to do a total overhaul of your life and lose 10 or 100 pounds in a month with no actual plan for how to do it, because that sets you up for failure when you make it too big with no realistic plan, and failure puts you in a negative mindset that’s super hard to escape.

Also, don’t focus on only the root meaning of the word resolutions, because that means you’re relying solely on willpower to get the things you want – combine goal-setting with resolve and action to actually get the results you want.

Goal Setting + Will Power + Action = Desired Results

Happy New Year!

So, go ahead and kiss the people you love at midnight, if it makes you happy, and go ahead and eat that pickled cabbage we call sauerkraut if it makes you happy, but do it because you enjoy it.

Don’t rely on a new year’s superstition to decide if you’re going to have a good year or not – make choices and act in ways that deliver success – so you don’t have to rely on luck to have the kind of life you want in the new year.

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By: Laure Justice