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Happy New Year and Happy New Decade! Goal Setting for 2020 and the New Decade

I love the idea of starting fresh (as much as possible) each new year. So, I spend some time the last day or two of each year and then spend some time setting goals for the coming year during the course of the first day or two of each new year.

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The year 2020 provides a great opportunity, in my opinion, to add some long-term goal setting to the mix, too.

Some of My Ideas for 2020 Goals

For 2020, I’m working on goals that focus on my career and my health, and I plan to add a lot of chit-chat and some facts about things that interest me, here on Intrinsic Vicissitude. So, for tonight, I thought I would combine my personal tips for goal setting with my personal goals, as examples that show ways to apply the tips.

Picture Where You Want to End Up

This visionary step is the classic ‘begin with the end in mind’ and to apply it to my 2020 goal of focusing on my career, I am picturing how much time I want to invest in my writing work, and how much I would like to have earned by the end of 2020. I’m picturing how it will feel, the things I’ll buy, the things I’ll do, and how New Year’s Eve 2021 is going to look at my house.

Commit 2020 Goals to Paper

This commitment-forming step is for your 1-year or less short-term goals. Okay, it doesn’t have to be actual paper if you’re a digital type, but it’s important to write goals down because the written form puts something solid and real in front of you. Moving on to my goal of focusing on my health for this example, I’m writing down my commitments to:

  • Drink more water
  • Eat more vegetables
  • Either walk, do resistance exercises, or yoga stretches at least five times per week.
  • Notice, I picked ‘gentle’ exercises that I find enjoyable to make it easier for myself to stay on track.

Add Some Long-Term Goals Since It’s a New Decade

You can set long-term goals anytime, but the start of a new decade is a great time to do it because it gives you an easily remembered date and time frame to work with as you aim for your goals. Like short-term goals, long-term goals should be written down to help you focus on them and make them more concrete. Allow yourself room to adjust them, though, because what you want today may not be what you want next year or five years from now.

Make a Success Plan Based on Your Goals

This step may take several days to complete, and it doesn’t matter if it takes longer than you originally expect. The important part is that you DO it. It’s practically impossible to go from point A (where you are now) to point C (your successfully reached goals) without filling in the point B (roadmap) details.

I’ll add a lot more about this in future posts, but basically, list a few things you KNOW you have to do in order to reach your goals. Want to make more money? What options do you have to do that? Get a new job or a second job? Charge more for your services? Consider all your options, and make a list of the things you’re going to do – that YOU GET TO CHOOSE from your list, and commit them to written form along with your short-term 2020 goals and long-term decade goals.

Set Deadlines for Completing Steps to Achieve Your Goals

Imagine if you were planning a trip, because the journey to reaching your goals is a type of trip in many ways. Typically, you would have a destination in mind, and know how far you plan to travel each day, and things you want to do. With goal-setting, the stops along the way are a vital part of your roadmap for the journey.

Deadlines help you stay on track, and as you reach each step successfully, you get to enjoy the success of having completed a leg of your journey to success. Plus, if you notice you’re falling way short, you can quickly adjust the things you’re doing – or not doing – so you can get back on track and work toward still reaching your short-term and long-term goals.

Goal-Setting Success image courtesy of Pixabay

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By Laure Justice

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Healthy Things You Can Do for Yourself After the Kids Go Back to School

Have you ever thought about taking a break? Summer is almost over and it’s your turn for some self-care after you send your kids off to school – so you can finally relax.

Self-care at back-to-school time image courtesy of Pixabay

Because school’s just around the corner, if it hasn’t already started where you live, it’s always smart to plan some things you enjoy.

Tips on How to Maintain Self-care

The idea of going on vacation is clearly out of the question but maybe you could do something else that’s a bit more local or a bit more convenient.

For starters, clearing out your schedule and having the day to yourself is very key when it comes to self-care. Here below are some healthy tips to get you started in the right direction.

Maintain a Healthy Diet

Diet is very important. And as we get older, our metabolism slows, making it harder for us to burn off any unnecessary fat. So to make things much more easier, we must maintain a healthy diet.

Fruit image courtesy of Pixabay

Maintaining a healthy diet is not easy, it is very difficult, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t achievable. It might take a while for you to adjust to a certain eating habits.

But, in the meantime, a good tip would be to watch your daily calorie intake. Because people make the mistake of taking in too many calories more than they can actually burn.

Unless you’re going to the gym every day, controlling your daily calorie intake is very important.

However, that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy an occasional treat…

Treating Yourself

There are many forms of treating oneself when it’s time to take the kids back to school.

Ice cream image courtesy of Pixabay

Whether it’s taking some time off to go to the spa, sneaking some delicious pleasantries into your diet because your tired of eating salad everyday, or simply just watching a movie at home when no one is around.

It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as it fits you.

As long as you take that time out of the day to take care of yourself and your own needs. Because sometimes when you’re so busy worrying about giving the children what they need, sometimes you forget about you.

And, taking care of yourself, is just as important as taking care of your kids.


Ever feel tired and cranky? Well, most people don’t know this, but exercising and keeping your body in shape can be very helpful in that department.

Surfing image courtesy of Pixabay

This is why some parents must love when it’s time to go back to school, because now you have more time in your schedule to exercise.

One of the healthiest things you can ever do is exercise.

Not only does it give you a nice afterglow, but it also gives you a quick re-boost in energy.

As stated previously, it’s very important to keep your body active and to keep your muscles from staying stagnant.

The more you exercise, the better off your body will be in the long run.


Sleep is very important. If there isn’t anything on this list that you do, make sleep your top priority.

Get enough rest’ image courtesy of Pixabay

The body cannot function without sleep so if you’re not getting enough of it, you will not be able to function properly at all.

To maintain optimum health, a person needs to at least get 7-8 hours of sleep a day.

Your brain has to function at a certain capacity, and if you’re running on four hours of sleep every day there’s no way that you’re putting nearly as much effort into things you normally would if you had the right amount of hours of sleep.

Make sleep a part of your daily self-care routine.

Time Management

Clearing out your schedule is very important when it comes to self-care.

Time management image courtesy of Pixabay

Carefully manafging your time makes room for the things you want to do but couldn’t do before, such as, finally being able to have that spa day you always wanted or putting back the healthy things in your life again.

You don’t have to actually go to the spa to have a spa day, you can have a spa day right at home.

Whether it’s taking a nice bubble bath, upgrading your skincare routine with a nice facial mask, or mediating with the candles lit, it’s easy to enjoy being creative when coming up with ideas to treat yourself.

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Review of Trust and Will

What if I told you there’s an easy, inexpensive way you can protect your assets and make sure the people you love are protected in the event of your death and it’s software from a company called Trust and Will?

Trust and Will Review
Trust and Will Review image courtesy of Geralt and Pixabay

If you already have a will or trust set up to protect the interests of your loved ones, kudos! If you don’t – why don’t you? There are a lot of obvious reasons why someone wouldn’t… cost of an attorney… too busy… too confusing… and one and on.

An Easy Solution to Writing a Will or Trust

I recently was offered the chance to try out Trust and Will for free in exchange for an Instagram post, which I did. Writing about it here on my blog wasn’t part of the deal, but I was so impressed with the experience, plus I thought what a positive thing it is to do for your loved ones – so I decided to briefly share about it here on Intrinsic Vicissitude.

Life Situations Change

I had a will made years ago by an attorney, but my life situation has since changed drastically. I had been putting off getting a new will due to the high attorney fees.

While I gained access to the software in exchange for a review, it would have still cost only a fraction of what I would have had to pay an attorney if I had gone that route.

By the way, if you want to try the Trust and Will software, try adding the promo code ADULTING in the promo code box – it should give you a $10 discount, at least for a while.

How Long it Takes to Write a WIll Using Trust and WIll Software

It took me exactly 21 minutes to go through the process of writing a will using Trust and Will, and that was from the time I turned the computer on until I reached the final page and reviewed everything.

It really was incredibly easy, and if you need a will, using Trust and WIll was, in my opinion, an extremely easy and effective way to write a will. I didn’t try writing a trust, but my guess is that it’s really close. If you try and do the trust instead of the will, consider popping back on here and letting everyone know what you think.

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Why You Should Pursue Your Dreams Now

Have you ever waited for the right time to say something, only to see the opportunity to speak up slip past? Or, have you thought of a great concept for a business but decided to wait for the right time to DO it – only to see someone else start a business and start living YOUR dream?

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It’s really common to wait for the ‘right’ time to do something and later realize you missed your chance. It’s normal to want everything to be perfect when you go for a dream, the thing is, perfect is rarely part of the human experience, and when you wait for perfect, you miss your chance.

Another Opportunity Is Coming

If you missed a chance to ‘go for it’ on previous idea or even a relationship, know that other opportunities are coming your way. You just have to be ready to see them, and ready to act when the time arrives.

It’ll Take Too Long… Not an Excuse!

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve heard saying things about not going back to college because they’re tool old and it’ll take too long. The thing is, time is going to pass all the same. Same goes for starting a business. Making it a success is going to take a lot of time.

However, that time is going to pass all the same. Would you rather get to the end and look back with pride, or look back and wish you had tried. You miss 100% of the chances you don’t take.

What if you try and you don’t succeed? You can try again or start something new. Each failure is a lesson you can use a foundation to build success, it’s not an end unless you CHOOSE for it to be an end.

When the Idea Is Great but the Time Isn’t Perfect

Instead of focusing on what isn’t perfect, for example if you have a business idea and don’t have the money to start it in a big way… look for other ways.

Would it be great to open a big manufacturing facility to produce your ‘widgets’? Sure! Is it necessary to start big? Nope!

Hewlitt-Packard started in a garage. McDonald’s started with one small restaurant. The point isn’t always perfection or starting in the way you want to start. It’s starting or not starting. Period.

Start From Where You Are

The best advice you can get is to start from where you are. This is especially true for business ideas, but you can apply it to anything.

For example, if you have a great idea for fashion designs. Make a pattern and make one and put it for sale in an online auction or a social media group.

The pattern can be adapted until it’s just right. You can use the money from the one you sell to buy materials to make two. Sell those two and reinvest that money.

It isn’t a fast way to start, but it’s a better than what you’re going to feel if you see someone else making tons of money after THEY develop the idea you had.

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How to Create Positivity in Your Life

If you’re feeling a little blah, this is a great time for you to create positivity for yourself. There are a lot of easy ways to make yourself feel more positive, and this short list just touches on a few to give you some ideas and inspiration.

Positivity image courtesy of Pixabay

Tips for Creating Positivity in Your Life

When you start to feel less than positive, it’s a good time to look for ways to help someone else. This takes you out of your own problems and low mood and engages your attention on someone else.

Bring Positivity to Others

Helping someone else is such an easy way to bring positivity – you bring it to someone else, and that in turn brings positivity back to you. It doesn’t have to be big, expensive or even especially time-consuming. There’s so much need everywhere, a quick look around makes it easy to find someone who needs a hand.

Exercise for Positivity

You can increase your fitness level and you can increase positivity at the same time. Make sure your doctor says it’s okay for you to start a new workout routine, and then start out at an intensity that accommodates your current fitness level.

Read Self-Help Books

Reading encouraging words and working on the issues you have in life are an interesting way to get positivity. Choose a self-help book that’s based on research, prepared by a physician or psychologist, or one that’s written by someone who’s ‘been there’.

Eat Something

A lot of people get cranky when they get hungry. If you’re like that, some food may help your low mood. It’s up to you whether you want some hearty comfort food or light, natural and healthy food.

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3 Powerful Healing Gemstones for Your Home

Gemstones have long been associated with protection and healing. Some of the strongest of those are also commonly available.

Gemstones can help align and stimulate or calm energies in rooms and in bodies, protect from psychic attacks, either by themselves or in combination with other healing gemstones.


Amethyst balances and helps align energies, as well as raising lower energies to higher ones, helps protect against psychic attack, and aids in meditation. It provides a balance between the physical and spiritual worlds. It is known to enhance mental function. It is best cleansed under cool or cold running water, even if it comes from a tap. (Make sure the points are facing down.)


Moonstone is a stone of feminine energy, helping women especially to regain and maintain their energy and power balances. Combined with the above stone, it helps with emotional wisdom. It brings serenity and helps release negative energies. The clearer and more colorful the stone is, the more healing energy it has. Cleanse it in moonlight, either on the night of the new or the full moon for a fresh or more potent energy, depending on the phase.


Garnet has been considered a ward against evil since ancient times, and supports energy flow throughout the body. It helps remove negative energy and replace it with positive energy. It also helps calm chaotic situations. It assists with love relationships, either helping deepen existing ones or helping to find new ones. To cleanse the stone, submerge in sea salt water or dry sea salt overnight, or place under cool or cold running water, even from a tap, points down.

Healing gemstones make beautiful, useful decorations for your home, calming the environment. Caring for them is easy, and the benefits are many.

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Why You Should Forge Your Own Trail

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Forge Your Own Trail image courtesy of Pixabay

At a glance, it may seem as if the logical thing to do is just follow the trail that others have carved, and sure, there may be times when you should do that. However, think what you may be missing by following someone else’s path.

The One Who Goes First Sets the Standard

The person who goes first, sets the pace and creates the original benchmark, or set of goals, for the people who follow. For example, Henry Ford created the a manufacturing process that companies worldwide are still trying to replicate.

The One Who Goes First Enjoys the Adventure

Being the first one to do something is exciting, and fun, and an adventure. Following may have the advantage of using an easier path, but the leader gets the bragging rights, the excitement of being first, and gets to enjoy the most success.

The One Who Goes First Gets to Help Others

Helping others makes us feel good – it’s just part of being human that we (for the most part) enjoy the way it feels (emotionally) when we reach out to help someone else succeed.

Forging your own path is pretty likely to give you more of a feeling of accomplishment than you’re ever going to get by following someone else’s trail. And here’s the real difference between making your own trail and following someone else’s…

Should you have others you look up to and ask for advice? Absolutely! Should you follow the advice blindly without considering how it meshes with your goals and existing know-how? Probably not!

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Tips for Resolving a Breach of Contract

A breach of contract may be defined as a broken promise. Something that stems from an individual’s failure to fulfill any term of a contract without a lawful excuse. Maybe you hired a developer to build your company’s website and they stop midway through the job without giving you the password, or perhaps a handyman never finished the job or performed shoddy work. Another common breach of contract involves employees who quit to go to work for the competition, one of the reasons Nike sued some of its designers who decided to abandon the company for rival Adidas, as Oregon Live reports.

Breach of Contract image courtesy of Pixabay

These tips can help you resolve a breach of contract without having to sue, no matter what the reason, whether you live in Hamilton, Ontario, Los Angeles, California or anywhere else. Oftentimes, simply sending a demand letter will do the trick as few people want to face a lawsuit, especially when it’s obvious they’re in the wrong.

Try to Work It Out

Before sending any type of formal notice, or threatening a lawsuit, make an attempt to work it out more informally. That can save you time, money and potentially even the working relationship. Never threaten to sue just to get out of a deal that isn’t as lucrative as you thought it would be as it’s likely to backfire, particularly if you’re bluffing, which can lead to a long, drawn-out court battle.

Send a Notice of Breach

If you’re unable to work it out with the other party, the next step is to send a “Notice of Breach,” which creates a record of the date the party that breached the contract is officially told – that can be important if a dispute ends up in court. The notice must indicate which part of the contract was breached. For example, did the other party fail to perform, such as not delivering goods or services, or not paying you for what you provided? Or, maybe they made it impossible for you to perform your obligations? No matter the reason the breach occurred, it’s important to identify all contract clauses affected and list them out. If there is more than one, they should all be listed with the strongest claim first.

Don’t be melodramatic, instead, stick to the facts using a professional tone. If it goes to court, it won’t look good in the eyes of the jury or judge if you have a bullying tone.

In many cases, sending a Notice of Breach will allow both parties to come to a satisfactory solution on their own.

Arbitration or Litigation?

If the breach of contract can’t be resolved without intervention, the next option is either arbitration or litigation. Arbitration involves submitting the dispute to a neutral third party to help resolve it and is much more cost effective than litigation. It’s also much quicker and less cumbersome than having to go to trial. An agreed-upon arbiter is selected to hear the dispute and issues a decision that’s binding.

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