When problems are overwhelming and the pressure and pain are just too much to handle, it’s completely normal to want to escape, but there’s an emotionally healthy way to do it and a less balanced way, and that way is the surprising difference between moving on and running away – and what you CHOOSE to do determines whether the outcome is positive or negative, too.
The Difference Between Moving On and Running Away
Both running away and moving on are means of escaping a situation that isn’t working, but the difference between the two approaches to rewriting your life story is the thinking behind each move, and that thinking determines your end result.
Running away is an act of desperation, typically done without a lot of forethought or maturity, it gets you away from an immediate bad situation, but not necessarily to a better place.
- Almost everyone has heard of, been, or known that little kid who packs a bag of snacks and a teddy bear (but no clothes, jacket, or safe destination) and runs away from home because of getting punished for something.
Running away can offer instant relief to the things that are wrong in your life, BUT, and it’s a BIG BUT, your problems, or even worse ones, will be waiting on you when you reach your destination.
Moving on in life also removes you from your problems, but it’s not an immediate escape: it’s harder and it takes longer, but it’s worth the effort and the wait.
- Moving on is taking the time to examine what went wrong in your life, being honest about your role in your own problems, and carefully considering the path to take as you move on with your life.
Moving on with this type of considered approach helps you leave the problems you are trying to escape where they belong, in your past.
Be Safe First
I want to add, if you’re in physical danger, go with running away and get to a safe place, just… once you get away and you’re in that safe place, give yourself time to reflect on what went wrong and heal before you rush right into another bad situation.
Both ways of escaping can remove you from the immediate problem, but moving on intelligently can stop your problems from following you into the next part of your life while running away leaves you pulling your old problems right along with you like a wagon full of… useless… stuff.
Now, if you’re ready to move on and you’re considering actually moving to a new location, be sure to check out his mini list of house hunting tips to help you maintain positivity while finding a great new home.
By: Laure Justice