When you think about yourself, what do you think? Are you your own worst critic? Do you hear that small voice inside your head telling you that you’re not good enough, or not worthy of a better life? Good or bad, what you think about yourself, deep down, is your sense of self-esteem.
What Is Self-Esteem?
If you watch a person with a high sense of self-esteem, he might seem bold, or over-confident. She might be that person who has everything, and everything goes right for – and who, even if something bad happens, he or she comes out on top of the heap. He just always seems to know what to do.
If you watch a person with low self-esteem, you might notice defeated body language, such as drooping shoulders, bad posture, or you might hear the person making self-deprecating jokes or saying generally negative things. He or she might even be acting flamboyantly in a subconscious effort to feel better or to hide a low self-esteem. He or she will often seem unable to make a decision
Raise Your Low Self-Esteem
If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, there are things you can do boost your sense of self.
- Begin with educating yourself – open your mind to who you are and who you believe you were meant to be – then write down those observations.
- Recognize where you fall short of your own set of ideals, but don’t dwell on the differences – just be aware of them for your own use in goal-setting.
- Take the time to be grateful for the strengths you already have, and even be grateful for the things you need to work on; because knowing what you need to work on is a big step.
- Make goals, and go step-by-step through what you need to do to make those goals come true – then celebrate each and every step as you work toward your goals.
- Never think of a success as being so small it’s not worth celebrating – a success is a success – and every success is worthy of your attention.
- If an unhappy relationship with an unsuitable partner or financial problems are weighing you down, talk to an expert or pick up a book about the source of your problem.