The title of this might seem super, super obvious – but then – if it’s so obvious, why do so may people do exactly that?
If you feel extremely despondent, dejected, hopeless, or inadequate, like an unseen force is pressing down and squishing the life out of you, there’s a good chance you are experiencing depression – and you probably don’t need me to tell you that.
But, did you know depression can be linked to the types of relationships you choose?
You might feel like a victim in a bad relationship, but really, it is more likely that you have unknowingly made yourself the target of an emotional manipulator.
Why Do I always Attract the Losers?
If you think of yourself as a victim, with things just “happening” to you, then you slip into the role of feeling like you are under attack by a bully, and it is a relationship pattern people tend to repeat over and over.
What a Jerk!
As you learn to recognize your own unmet emotional needs, your emotional stress levels and stressors, you will also become able to recognize emotional manipulation and emotional blackmail on the part of your manipulator.
Conquer Emotional Depression
Recognize that it is not the manipulator who is the problem, it is your fear.
For most targets, as the target of emotional manipulation, or as a target of a loser/jerk, you feel reject-able in some way, and deep down, and that fear of rejection means you will always be at risk of being manipulated by the next loser/jerk to come along until you learn to recognize that fear.
(The book above or the video below both explain it better if you have time to read the book or watch the video.)
But, that does not mean “this unhappy situation is your fault – because it is completely natural to do anything in your power to avoid rejection – even letting someone be a jerk and treat you badly.
How to Get Out of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
First, if the emotional abuse you are experiencing is more severe and you do not feel safe, find a shelter, such as the local women’s shelter to get help and protection.
Find your positive – so you can move ahead and escape the dangers of depression caused by unhappy relationships and emotional manipulation.
Learn to see what holds you back and makes you let the losers treat you poorly.
Remember: even if – when – you have a setback, keep believing in yourself and keep focusing on the positive.