Pretty much everyone has something that makes them feel a little bit, or a lot, quivery and weak in the core of their being – some thing they’re afraid others will judge them harshly for – or make fun of them for – or that they feel is missing in themselves that makes them put themselves through a sense of loss and pain.
What Is Self Confidence?
Self confidence is being aware of and believing in yourself, your innate powers, and your abilities, both inborn and learned.
It is also not being afraid to speak up when you know the answer, or to ask a question when there’s something you don’t understand.
It’s knowing that no matter what anyone else thinks, or you might imagine they think, it’s irrelevant in comparison to your own knowledge of your self worth.
Finally, it is feeling okay about yourself – and if you have that, the world feels pretty great.
If you don’t have it, it’s time for you take some steps so you can, because it’s a game changer, in a good way, and THAT, is the whole reason for this site.
Building Self Confidence
Don’t expect self confidence to blossom like a rose overnight – (though I hope it will for you.)
For most people, especially if starting with a damaged self-esteem, it takes a series of successes to wake up a positive self image.
However, just like a house or a multi-million-dollar corporation isn’t built overnight, a great sense of self isn’t built overnight.
How to Build Confidence
Make a list of things that are positive about yourself and your life. If you’re really bummed and struggling, make a fake list. There’s nothing wrong with a fake it till you make it approach, especially when it comes to putting positive thoughts in your subconscious mind.
That’s why I suggest writing it down, in list form. You have to think it in order to write it, then you see your hands writing the words.
Then, put your positivity list where you can read it several times a day, especially when you first get up in the morning and right before bed, but the more times you read it each day, the better it’ll work.
How to Be More Confident
If you’re really struggling to boost your self esteem and self confidence, go out of your way to help someone else – whether it’s with something big or small, just do what you can, it has the same effect on your psyche regardless of what it is.
The act of helping someone else creates an almost unbelievably positive feeling, so make sure you add it to your list so you can recall the deed and the feeling at any time by simply reviewing your list.
This works because if you are helping someone else, then you aren’t thinking about anything that’s bad in your life.
Two Great Self Confidence Quotes
“Nothing builds self esteem and self confidence like accomplishment.”
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”
-William Jennings Bryan