It is so easy to get stuck in the negative, and then nothing seems to go right. The way our minds work, we get a little boost of joy when something good happens, but then we go right back to normal. Then, when something bad happens, we get bummed and stay bummed. We get a new “normal” and it’s a less positive new normal.
How to Be Positive
Being positive, being happy: those things take work sometimes because of the human tendency to get mired down in negativity. The simplest exercise to pull yourself out of a negative spot is to simply shift your focus to something good that happened.
I’m not suggesting you paste on a smile if something truly awful has happened, but don’t let things suck you into a pit of negativity and keep you there.
Maybe you feel like your whole day has been bad, but if you mentally go back through the day, you’ll find there was something good – even if it’s small, like someone holding the door for you and wishing you a good day at the gas station when you went in to pay.
How to Get Success in Life
Only you can define what success means to you, for some people it’s having a life filled with loved ones and warm place to sleep at night. For others, it’s having a fancy car or McMansion to impress others.
However you define success, you can have it if you choose it. I’m not saying if you just go, “Hey, I’m gonna be rich,” you’ll get rich, I’m saying if you set a goal, and are willing to do what it takes, you can succeed.
The problem tends to be, people set goals, but when it comes right down to it, they aren’t willing to do what it takes to turn the goal into reality.
What Is Peace of Mind?
Peace of mind is defined as the absence of mental stress or anxiety, and there’s a reason people chase after it – it feels pretty darn good. The problem is, no one can give it to you, and you can’t buy it – for any price.
You have to claim it, and be willing to focus on the positive in order to get peace of mind – and it’s not always easy. If it were easy, everyone would be chilled and happy – but back to human nature again…
It takes work to break out of negativity – and just like with achieving goals – many people are just not willing to do what it takes to earn and have peace of mind – no matter how much they want it.
One of my favorite ways to focus on the positive is writing positive things – which is part of why I chose the awesome video I shared above – the speaker suggested doing something I do and, frankly, it always works for me, and I hope it will for you, too, if you try it.
Pick up a pen and write positive things – happiness quotes are great, because a simple Internet search gives you tons to choose from, you don’t have to think them up yourself, and the experience of writing positive words turns the thought into a physical action on your part.
My personal approach to this is, I have a composition notebook that is just for my positive quotes. I start a lot of my posts here on Intrinsic Vicissitude with positive quotes I have saved over the years.
I look for quotes by both people I admire and people I have never heard of before, and I get quotes from books I read, that inspire me, too.
I have a thing about pens, and I incorporate that into my composition book of quotes. I have a hard time finding pens that feel right in my hand, so I buy a lot of pens, then, if I find a kind I like, I buy a few of them… I’m not telling you this to talk about myself, I’m just using this as my example to complete this thought.
I don’t like a pen that drags on the paper, a dragging pen feels negative to me, as unusual as that may sound, so I look for pens that feel smooth and silky as they glide across the paper.
If you have a thing like that, that may seem quirky or different, don’t let it bog you down, you have every right to find your right pen, or whatever it is that removes negativity from your life. After all, it’s our quirks that make us who we are, and we might as well embrace them, because they aren’t going away.