If you’re here on Intrinsic Vicissitude to learn about building a better, happier life, but you are also in an emotionally abusive relationship, you already know first-hand that the title of this post is true – but did you also know you have choices and do not have to remain a victim of this type of emotional manipulation?
What is Emotional Abuse?
Emotional abuse is a type of relationship bullying that typically uses verbal abuse and manipulative, spirit-crushing tactics to control the victim. It does not leave the same physical signs as domestic violence, but it is a serious form of domestic abuse.
Living with emotional bullying leaves the victim angry, and afraid. Happiness cannot exist, much less grow in a soil made up of anger and fear.
How to Stop Being Bullied by a Loved One
First of all, if someone is bullying you – that is not a person who loves you. It is a person who wants to control you, and that has nothing to do with love or affection.
- If you or a loved one are dealing with this type of victimization, recognize your own role in it – in that by accepting it you allow it to continue.
- Educate yourself on codependent relationships.
- Seek counseling.
- Keep a journal if you can keep your bully from reading it and using it as a tool to bully you more.
- Do whatever you have to do to get stronger so you can have the life you want and deserve.
You can learn more about identifying emotional abuse on the Dr. Phil website, or reading a book on codependency, such as Why Women Pick Losers and Jerks or Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself.